Sometimes running doesn’t help and more thoughts because I can’t stop thinking about everything.

I went for a run yesterday. Brooke had lots of people at home with her, watching her every move, so I felt ready to go. It was amazing to be outside, breathing fresh air, talking with Emilee, and moving my body again.

Rewind–> On Friday, they told us the MRI would take 3-4 hours (thankfully, she was sedated). Andrew was beyond exhausted and needed to nap, and I could not fall asleep for the life of me. So, I put on my running gear, thinking that a run would help everything feel better. I got a mile away from the hospital and just started sobbing. I turned around and walked back to the hospital and didn’t even think about running again until we were home. It was weird. Running has always helped me to feel better and get through my hardest times, but this one, this one, just sucked every ounce of energy and emotion out of me to the point that my body could not do it mentally or physically. That mile on Friday felt like it was the first time I had ever run in my entire life.

Long story short, don’t feel alone if running doesn’t help you through the tough stuff. Sometimes, it will, and sometimes, it won’t. Running will always be there for us when we are ready, and you don’t just lose your fitness overnight. I was exactly where I needed to be, planted next to Brooke.

A few more thoughts from the entire experience…

*We have truly felt everyone’s prayers, thoughts, and love. It’s amazing how that has happened.

*The reason we got to come home sooner than planned was because her IV infiltrated, and they ran out of spots to do an IV again, so they tried oral antibiotics sooner than planned. Never has a human been so happy to have her IV out as Brooke was…

*Primary Children’s Hospital. We were blown away. We were in both the Lehi and Salt Lake City hospitals, and I couldn’t believe how detail-oriented they were with every little thing to help make the kids and families feel as comfortable and entertained as possible. The people working there are actual angels.

*Andrew and I haven’t stopped talking about how badly we want to be those people… Like a friend who picked up Beck and Skye to take to a trampoline park all day when I know she is so busy with her own life. My brother basically started driving up from St. George as soon as he heard to pick up Beck and Skye while we were gone. Friends who dropped off dinner without even asking. Family and friends who checked in on me all of the time, etc. I think the biggest lesson I’ve learned from all of this is to be that person who acts right away… They don’t hesitate to help and cannonball into action when something goes wrong. We are designed to help each other, and I’m more motivated than ever to do this now after seeing the world of difference it made for us.

*HEALTH IS WEALTH. Nothing else matters when your loved one’s health isn’t right. I’m telling ya, I was obsessing about the silliest small problems the day before this all started happening, and the perspective shift that changed within seconds when I realized something was seriously wrong with Brooke was pretty nuts.

Curly came over to join Brooke in recovering.

This little human hasn’t left my side since we got home.

So many people have dropped off things for Brooke; she is feeling so loved. Turns out little skittles are better than normal skittles.

Knox is back home again and has mastered his wheelie.

Speaking of bikes, Andrew got a new toy that he is pretty excited about. Does anyone else love Zwift?

My sweet friend brought over Costco tacos for us for dinner. They were so good.

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Janae, I have had that experience too- where I try to run and end up just sobbing. Sometimes it’s just not the right time.
I’m so, so glad Brooke is home safe. As soon as you posted about what was going on with her, it was weighing on me all the time. I have kids and there’s just nothing worse than this. We’re lucky enough not to have had any serious health scares, but I can just imagine how you felt. And yes- it’s a good lesson to learn. When something goes wrong I tend to think “Oh, they have so many other friends. Someone else is probably taking care of this.” No! Be that person. You can never have too much help.

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Thank you so much for understanding. You are so right, sometimes it’s just not the right time and sometimes it helps everything. Thank you for caring and loving us so much. It means the world to me. I HAVE THOSE THOUGHTS TOO but it has totally changed my perspective. I learned so many things from this. I hope you have a beautiful day, Jenny!

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So thankful life is returning to normal for y’all! I know from my son’s recent NICU stay how scared and helpless you can feel as a parent, and it’s the worst! Running has always been my stress reliever too, but I think when our babies are sick, being away from them (even to relieve some stress in a healthy way) is just too painful. Praying for continued healing for Brooke! Happy Thursday!

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NICU stay. Oh Emily, that must have been so so so hard. I agree; that was part of the problem. I just couldn’t be so far from her. Even if she was in a part of the hospital, I couldn’t be. Thank you for sharing with me and I hope everything is okay with your son. Keep me updated.

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Have not stopped thinking about your family! Praying that Brooke continues to get better day by day! <3

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Thank you so much, Kristen. That means the world to me. We feel it. I hope your day is a great one!

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I am a professor and work in the world of humanitarian aid in the Middle East- specifically in refugee camps. Regardless of everyone’s politics, my purpose in life is to be on the side of a just peace and to keep people alive— making sure they access food and water and basic healthcare. This year truly been the hardest yet— trying to be a good Mom, stay present as a wife, keep meals on our table, and getting my daughter to volleyball practice all the while I sit in on closed meetings and bear witness to terrible things that the general public does not see or hear in the media….I realized I was not sleeping much because of the stress and worry and my devotion to high intensity movement and running was not helping. I went to the doctor saying I needed help and the first thing she suggested was to do everything possible to lower my cortisol levels. My job is to make my body and mind feel safe again. I needed to eat a lot more, keep myself ‘warm’ (I had started to have cold hands and feet all the time), have Sabbath-like days where I fully unplug and rest with my family at home, and only do low intensity workouts…gentle walks outside and lots of slow yoga flows. It has been 3 months of following the “prescription” and though my work is still incredibly stressful, I am able to sleep full nights, eat nourishing meals, and experience more joy in the moment. We can always come back to running (or walk-running) whenever we are ready again.

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Thank you for the work that you do. Sounds like you’re a superhero for everyone around you. Keep taking good care of yourself. My sister Nadia, is a social worker, so being a humanitarian must be in the name.

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Thank you Jacinto and to your sister, Nadia! Take care :-)

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Jacinta! Sorry for the typo.

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Nadya. I have always loved you but after learning more about you today, you are actually my hero. Thank you for the work you do in the world and in your home. You are absolutely amazing. The advice from your doctor is everything and I am so glad it is helping you with your stress and sleep. Thank you. You are my idol.

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You are the best, Janae. I’m always cheering for you- maybe next year again in Boston!!! Ha.

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Hi Janae :) I am super glad Brooke is recovering and receiving so much love! What a scare :/ I know what you mean with running not always being the right thing. I went through a bone rattling break up last year and I stopped exercising for three whole weeks. My body went through enough and just the deep breathing as soon as I started running took down my emotional walls and made me sob. Sometimes it’s better to sit and be still :) When it’s regular life stress give me all the running and working out… But there is stress and then there are things that cut really deep. The fear and pain is just on a different level.

Something I have learned recently: If you let go, you’ve got both hands free :)

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Thank you so much, Moni. Oh my goodness, that must have been so incredibly difficult. EXACTLY. We can’t add to it when our body is at its max with stress, emotions and heaviness. You get it. And that concept is truly my new life motto thanks to you. I needed that SO bad for so many different reasons. Thank you. Your comment helped a lot.

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I have been thinking about you guys all week, I am so happy things are looking a bit better. And you are so right about things like this changing your perspective.

Zwift! Yes, I love Zwift! Make sure Andrew tries some races and group rides, so much fun!

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Right?! I am embarrassed over what I was stressed about the day before all of this happened. It really shines light on what matters. Andrew will have to join you in a group ride. He can’t wait. Thanks John, have a beautiful day!

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I’m glad Brooke continues to improve. There’s no place like home for recovery. And I know you’re glad to be home, too!

I’m so glad you’ve all been surrounded by some much love and help. There’s a great quote from Mr. Rogers, he said his mother always told him when times were scary to “look for the helpers.” (https://mcmomentsandmemories.blogspot.com/2017/05/look-for-helpers.html) We all need help sometimes. I’m often called upon to prepare meals for families in our church with needs. I’m happy to do it but didn’t really understand how meaningful it is until last year during my mother-in-law’s final week. We had so many people taking care of us. Receive help when you need it and give help when you can – it makes the world a much better place.

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Okay. That gave me chills. Look for the helpers. They are there and they turn your entire perspective around. You are an amazing helper. You are so right, you don’t realize how much these things help until you’ve received them yourself. Thanks Kathy for always lifting me up. I hope you have a beautiful day!

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It’s beautiful, Janae that you can even see these acts of kindness and be grateful for them in times of so much pain and stress. We really do rely on our Village!! Brooke is a strong one, so glad she’s home!!

PS My husband LOVES Zwift That will be great for Andrew! He’s going to make an incredible coach for Brooke’s team!

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Thank you, Michelle. I cannot believe how lucky we are to have the people that have helped and loved us (YOU GUYS TOO) over this last week. So so good to hear your husband loves Swift. I have a feeling Andrew is going to be addicted:). Have a beautiful day, Michelle!

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I am so glad Brooke is back home and the healing can start. Thankfully she mentioned the pain and you were able to get her the help she needed. I know you must be so stressed and please know I am in your thoughts and thinking of you and your beautiful family. Hugs and prayers to you all. Andrew, his family, your family and your friends are true angels.

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This really means the world to us. I have never felt so much love as I have this past week. We are so lucky. So so lucky. Thank you, Katrina. It means a lot. I hope you have a beautiful day!

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I just want to say how sorry I am that Brooke has gone through this. I was a neurosurgery nurse practitioner years ago and as you said this is very rare after tonsil surgery. So glad she is doing well.
I am not much of a runner now as I have mentioned before, but after my son was born I could not for the life of me run during stressful times. My body simply wouldn’t let me. Now if I have anxiety or stress I just can’t. I used to run 20 miles without a thought, and I can’t make it 1/4 mile, no joke! I have to walk after 2 min. The walking calms me down. When I am angry though, those are the days I find I still can run (slow jog) a bit longer.
Send Brooke my love. She is a brave girl!

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REALLY?! Oh wow! I bet you saw so many things during your time as a neurosurgery NP. Truly so rare and honestly, I am terrified of it happening again. I get it now, what you have gone through after having your son during stressful times. I thought running was always the answer but now I have experienced what it feels like to simply not be able to. Sending you love and thank you for this, Geni. You are amazing.

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Running can help us deal with issues, but sometimes it all becomes too much. I am so happy Brooke is home, and is on the mend. There is no worse feeling than when our children are sick — that feeling of helplessness is horrible. My oldest had open heart surgery when he was 3 (he’s healthy now) and I would not wish something like that on any parent. I’m so glad you were all showered with love during the hardest times. Love and hugs to you all
Stacey

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Absolutely agree, I was at the point where it was just too much. OPEN HEART SURGERY. Stacey, I had no idea. I cannot even imagine what you guys went through and I am so happy to hear that he is healthy now. Thank you sweet friend, that means the world to us.

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I’m so, so glad Brooke is home and that you have so much support from family and friends. It makes a world of difference and I’m sure it was a lot easier to trust that your other kids would be fine for several days when you had highly trusted backup. I’m still baffled that this even happened – had the doctors ever even told you that this was a risk (when she got the tonsillectomy)?

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I know. It really is so crazy. They went through possible complications and I remember feeling like I was going to pass out when they did but they said none of them had ever happened with the thousands of surgeries they had done! I’m not sure if they mentioned this particular one or not though?! Hope you have a beautiful day!

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For some reason I can’t see my previous comment to respond to your reply so here goes – I’m not sure if my best friend heard of that as a complication for her son’s surgery either. In any case, you got the care she needed and it doesn’t mean it’s likely to happen again with any future surgeries. Hope you have a great, healing day too! Also, I’ve heard that Zwift is very fun, although perhaps not as fun as Knox’s wheelie. My goal is to learn how to wheelie after pregnancy!

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I’m so glad Brooke is home!!! Yay!

My girl had a tonsillectomy yesterday morning. She’s 20 so recovery is a little tough but she’s doing great so far! Our OR nurse said the most common complication is bleeding but that’s about all they ran through with us. Also, the nurses and doctor were fantastic. Her recovery nurse told me she needed chapstick stat because it’s all she talked about when she woke up. Ha! She’s definitely my girl.

I am still recovering from an internal brace surgery in my ankle (6 weeks today). It feels great but no running yet! I’m on the Peloton or road bike every day and I just got a Peloton Guide to help with my strength workouts. It’s kind of fun changing it up.

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I had a friend who never failed to show up at races I did, or sent me a note to encourage me or to congratulat, the very last time we spoke was after a party and she told me I should be a writer (i sort of did that for a bit) ….she passed away just hours before I took part in my second ever (and last) Ironman…..all I saw was a text that said that heaven had another angel….it wasn’t unexpected, she had been battling stage 4 breast cancer..but just floored me, I almost bailed on the race…but thought, she’s want me to, I wrote Jill’s name on the back of both hands, for most of the race I couldn’t see it (maybe in the swim, but bike gloves covered it) but she got me through even then……was it therapeutic? but man, there have been other times, sometimes it wasn’t a run for me, but for them?

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You already are that person :) I’ve been reading your blog almost since the start and your beautiful, giving heart always shines thru. Maybe it was your turn to receive. So deeply sorry for what Brooke and the whole family went thru and very grateful she is better and improving daily.

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