I have had requests for more dating stuff so here we go.
There are times that it is super fun and exciting to be back in the dating scene and then times where I feel extremely lazy about dating and just want to spend every night for the rest of my life watching Netflix while eating apple fritters on my couch (I guess if I find a guy that wants to live the apple fritter/netflix dream with me then I am set).
I’m not going to lie, it takes a lot of energy and time to get back out there but I have met and dated some great people and I’ve had a lot of fun. PS no specific stories because anyone that I have dated knows about www.hungryrunnergirl.com. Oh, and people always ask how I meet these guys—> church, set-ups, people that I knew from before I got married and meeting them through mutual friends.
Like I said the other day, I am super lucky to have these amazing single girlfriends to experience this whole thing with…
Things have definitely changed over the years. I dated my ex-husband for about two years and then we were married for a bit so it has been some time since I was out there dating different people.
I was just a baby the last time I was in the dating world (and I was obsessed with ice cream back then too):
I came up with a list in my head the other day of all of the things that have changed in the last seven + years and I thought I would share:
***You can completely stalk the person you are going to go out with before you actually do. Okay, stalk is a little over the top but I mean you can really find out a lot about them before actually even going out with them. You can see a bunch of pictures of them from over the last decade, who they are friends with (the mutual friends thing on Facebook is always a big help), where they work, what things they have posted on their wall over the years etc. And somebody that is interested in me has the fabulous opportunity to read about my daily life over the last 4.4 years. That’s always fun;)
***I know exactly what I want/need/won’t live without this time around. I am not so wishy washy like I used to be. Brooke is in the picture this time around and so I try to be extremely smart about the whole dating thing.
***To go along with the above one, I state my standards pretty boldly. I didn’t used to be like that but I am sure glad I am now. For example—> “Ummm if you are going to be continuing to kiss me then you aren’t kissing other girls. If you want to kiss other girls currently, then don’t kiss me. K thanks.” I’m too old for that kind of stuff.
***There is a lot of texting. I can barely keep up with texting with my mom each day (okay, we text a ridiculous amount). Now people text a lot as part of the courting/getting to know you stage. The last time I was in the dating scene you would call each other, set up a time to go out and then talk more in person. Nothing wrong with this one, it is just different!
***There are apps on people’s cell phones were you scroll through a bunch of people and choose which people you are attracted to and want to get to know and if they feel the same about you—> you start a conversation. Tinder. I haven’t actually joined onto this train but it sure is an interesting concept. I guess I am just too afraid that I will be kidnapped or something.
***Things have changed especially when I first meet someone. Here is how the conversation goes:
“Hey, I’m ______. What’s your story?” (Okay, we usually get to this question a little later on in the conversation).
“I’m Janae. I have the greatest 2.5 year old on the planet and for my job I write a blog about running/food/randomness and get paid to post ridiculous selfies of myself every day.”
I love my life and job but it is always a little funny to see people’s reactions when I tell them about what I do. I don’t have the typical job:)
Those are the things I can think of currently but I am sure I will add to the list as I think of more and more. But yeah, things have changed over the years and I wonder what it will be like for Brooke when I finally let her date when she reaches the age of 25… kidding, kind of.
Single people—> how do you feel dating has changed over the years!?
Do you have any topics requests for a future post?
Divorced people—> how was it for you getting back into the dating scene?
Since this post has nothing to do with running—> tell me about your workout today!? I would love to hear!