Fine. Go. + IMO + 5 random things.

(Shirt, shorts, shoes, socks, bra, sunglasses)

I hope this training block of having only men to chase after for many of my workouts results in a big Boston PR in 18 days.  It’s been hard!

Sixteen miles @ 7:19 average.  4 mile w/u, 10 x 1 minute fast, 1 minute easy, 10 x 30 sec fast, 45 seconds easy, c/d to 16 miles.   Keeping track of what number interval you are on for this workout is rough, I need to program it into my watch next time.

I felt tired, but that’s normal for this workout when the taper is just beginning.  It’s coming off three 80 miler hard weeks, so it’s to be expected…  Another reason I felt so tired–> I kept up with one friend for the first three intervals, which killed me because it was way too fast for me.  It doesn’t matter how many years I train, I will always find myself making that mistake at least a few times each training cycle.

I did some heat training for this run… I wore a t-shirt when it felt like sports bra weather to me;).  I finished up with 15 minutes of pilates for my morning.

I wish I had kept track of how many of these I took throughout this training cycle.  I’m sure it is in the hundreds.

And now they are working on our floors!

We got out for a walk, thankfully.

We have been eating a lot of chipotle lately.  However, I was pretty upset with how much bigger they made Andrew’s burrito than mine.

The cake they had for Andrew on his last shift at the hospital.  They are not happy he is leaving them, ha.

The kids are thrilled to be done with FaceTime goodnight calls with Andrew and have him every night.

I shared this on IG, but I thought I would share it here too.  So many parents feel guilty about going running, but here is why I think you shouldn’t:

One of the many reasons why I think parents should follow their dreams or have interests and hobbies (running:) that they do just for them:

Having something like running helps me not to rely on my kids to fulfill my dreams.

If we can maintain our sense of self through parenthood, we won’t depend on our kids to make us happy.  Keeping our identities gives them room to grow and follow their passions and interests.  I think it takes stress off of children as they grow up when they know their parents have things they love and aren’t expecting them to fulfill their needs.  Taking time to do something for ourselves helps our children to feel like we aren’t trying to live our lives through them.

So, next time you feel guilty for heading out the door for a run (or whatever makes you feel YOU), remember that you are showing your children how important it is to take care of yourself as an adult, to avoid losing yourself in other roles and to continue to play.   This action gives them the freedom to be who they are, which in my opinion, is one of the best things we can do for kids!

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And to end today, I have 5 random things to end with today, so let’s get started…

1.  This one will offend many… some of my running friends had difficulty talking to me after I told them this;). I don’t separate my laundry.  Yep, everything goes in together.  It’s not right, but I’m okay with being wrong when it saves me 483 hours a year in laundry;). Anyone who protests this method of mine in our home is welcome to do the laundry themselves.

2.  I have a hernia in my belly button area.  Always have, and always will.  It feels creepy, and I make my kids feel it every now and then to gross them out, haha.

3.  I hate the lights being on in my house.  Please give me all of the natural light but do not turn on a light because it makes me squint.  I prefer walking around my house in the dark.

4.  I currently use six blankets at night, one of which is heated.  I can only fall asleep when my face is frozen, yet my body is toasty.

5.  I eat the peel of mangos.  Not every time, but I love to eat a mango like an apple:)

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Any weird/random things about you that you can share with me?!

Did my laundry fact make anyone feel upset?

How do you avoid any feelings of guilt you may have for running?

Rachael asked if I could ask any of you for help on this, “I had a tibial stress fracture last year, and I still have swelling on my tibia a few hours after every run.  My doctor says it’s likely tissue irritation from the lumpy part of my healed bone, but it is freaking me out so much!  I had a stress fracture on the same spot five years ago and never had any post-run swelling (it’s healed on MRI and I’ve been told by 3 doctors that I’m fine to run.  No pain while running, just swelling afterwards and if I really press on it it’s tender and I can feel kind of a little half pea-sized lump on the bone).”

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Ha ha… love the cake. And I don’t separate my laundry either! I just wash everything on cold and it’s fine.
Yes, our kids need the space to be who they are without any pressure from us. You put it so well. It’s easy (especially as a mom) to revolve our whole lives around our kids, but it’s not good for them or us. Even though I know this, I still sometimes feel guilty about being gone for long runs. Next time I start to feel guilty I’ll think back on this post and remind myself that I’m doing something good for myself AND my kids! Thank you.

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Yes, I hope it helps and that guilt is so tricky. You are doing amazing and they are so lucky to have you. I feel so much better now about knowing I’m not the only one that just throws it all in. Happy Thursday, Jenny!

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I’m laughing at your laundry fact. I separate my towels and clothing, but I don’t separate anything by color. The only reason I do towels and clothes separate is because it takes longer for the hampers to fill up and I don’t get as stressed about laundry as often lol. OK, I am low-key mad at you Janae, ;) because yesterday you had me craving Chick-Fil-A and today you have me craving Chipotle even though I have leftovers in the house!!! ;) Those are my favorite takeout places! I hope your house renovations get done soon; takeout food can be fun, but I know how stressful it is not having access to certain parts of your house; it can feel so disruptive. Also, I survived my first half (Blue Bell Half Marathon in TX) last weekend and LOVED it! I think I might be addicted?!? Happy Thursday Janae!

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EMILY! Congratulations. I am so so happy. So what is next for you?!

Okay, you have a major point on separating the towles from the clothing, I might have to do that now. I need to stop posting our takeout ha but you are right, I am ready to get back to cooking (I can’t believe I am saying that)!

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Emily – Congrats on your first half!

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I also do not separate my laundry. Unless there is some brand new or special I am worried about getting ruined.

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I’m glad we could all share this together… I thought I was the only one, ha. Hope your day is off to a great start, Amy!

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Guilt is real. Just took a new job that has be traveling a ton, it’s hard but it’s to make the world better for my daughter .
What gets me through is reminding myself that this is a crisis of privilege and the guilt comes from me having the choice to go run, work, etc at all. Many folks are away from their kids for really tragic or hard reasons, working two jobs etc.
It’s a privilege to choose.

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Kaytlin, you are amazing! Amen to what you said about the choice. We really are so lucky to have that choice. Happy Thursday and good luck with your new job!

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I don’t separate laundry either! If nothing will bleed, then it’s all going int together.
I love your thoughts on running as a mom!
Boston is so close! I’ll start praying to the weather gods for you. Let’s see tailwind, slightly overcast, 40 degrees, am I missing anything? Maurten gels to rain from the sky?

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Maurten gels rain from the sky hahaha… I love it. That would be perfect. Hope your day is a gorgeous one, thanks Molly!

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psst. you skipped #4. :)

I think whatever works as far as laundry is what a family should do. I don’t fold the fitted sheet. I wad it up and shove it in the closet. No one sees it and I hate wasting time trying to make it nice.
I find the walking-around-in the dark thing baffling. I want my house lit up like a Christmas tree. ALL THE LIGHTS!

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Hahaha #4 is I don’t know how to count;) I honestly don’t know where it went or remember what it was. Hahah I’m losing my brain. I am so with you on the fitted sheets! Andrew is just like you and he is confused by my vampire tendencies. Hope your day is a beautiful one, Hilary!

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I don’t separate my laundry either. It saves time, electricity, and water.
My randomness: approximately 18 days until tax season is over. CAN’T. WAIT.
Andrew’s cake looks delicious! I would have loved a slice or three or the whole thing.
How warm is it where you live that the kids are wearing short sleeves, shorts, and sandals? I’m still bundled up in sweat pants in MD.

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18. Days. I bet you are so ready for that. I always think about you in April. Yep, I was pretty upset I didn’t get half of that cake ha. Oh goodness, yesterday was like 38 degrees when they were wearing shorts. I am in a coat still all day. Hope your day is off to a beautiful start, Lee and that you get so much done today!

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I do my laundry the same way! I’ve had shirts go in white and come out a faint pink colour but for the most part, it works out OK ;)

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Slightly pink shirts are worth it for the lack of having to waste time sorting everything ha. Hope your Thursday is a great one, Shelby!

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I never separate my laundry either. My mom is always horrified. I do loads by person so its easier to put away.

I don’t feel guilty about running for all the same reasons you said in your post. Life is supposed to be enjoyable and I am happy to have activities I am passionate about outside of my family. My husband is very passionate about golf the same way I am about running. I used to get annoyed when he would play on the weekend but now I see it the same way. It does take some juggling and sometimes very early wakeups but we work together to make sure we have enough family time and still have room to chase our own personal goals that excite us!

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Wait. A. Second. I think you just changed my life. LOADS BY PERSON. That takes out the step of sorting that takes me forever. Thank you for sharing this and our poor mothers haha. ‘Life is supposed to be enjoyable’… you are just dropping so many important lessons for me today:) I love what you and your husband have figured out… dream team. Hope your day is off to a great start, Jenny!

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Ha ha, my boys don’t separate their laundry either, even though I taught them to, and it’s totally fine. They do separate their bedding though.
And how rude… Chipotle making your burrito smaller than Andrew’s. Sheesh! Ha ha
It’s raining again this morning… Uuggg. But I think today is the last of it for a good while.
Love the cake for Andrew. Have a great day Janae

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Hahah and you even taught them the right way. Thank you for seeing how upsetting the burrito size was. I was not okay. Thanks Wendy, you too!

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Now I have to know what mystery fact #4 is haha…

But I just have to comment because we are the same on the first 3! I never separate my laundry, I only use natural light (and I kind of go crazy in homes that keep the blinds closed and lights on during the day), and I have a hernia a few inches above my belly button that I’ve had since birth.

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#4 is that I don’t know how to count. Hahah I swear something was there and now it is gone and I don’t remember what it was?! I’ll keep thinking. THE SAME FIRST THREE. We need to go to lunch and figure out all of the other ways we are alike. Happy hernia! Have a beautiful day, Bailey.

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Your random things are so relatable! I do not sort laundry either – waste of time! lol I also have a hernia right above my belly button and it grosses me out, so squishy. And I never turn on lights and it drives my husband crazy! Let’s see… another random things about me, I clean my dishes before I put them in the dishwasher.

Happy Thursday!

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It drives Andrew crazy too, I turn off the lights whenever I enter a room haha. WAIT… I clean my dishes before I put them in the dishwasher too. Is this not normal??

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I can’t stand the lights on in my house either!!! And I only like dim, cozy light at night. I only separate my running clothes to wash. My family knows I’m not happy if my lulu clothes end up in the dryer ha ;)

I’ve had a lot of that guilt this week (my son with medical needs is sick). But when I come back from my run I realize I’m a more patient and energized mom and feel like I have the strength I need!

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YESSSSS I do not understand how people handle bright lights on everywhere. Taylor, I am so so sorry about your son. I am sending so much love and I am so glad you have running to help you get through this. Thinking of you guys.

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How do you keep your white stuff from getting dingy? That is really the only thing we separate – whites from everything else. And towels/sheets are usually their own load but clothes get mixed in to fill it up. Fun fact: I don’t mind laundry, I find it relaxing, but there was only 4 of us, and now only 2. I fold/iron it while I watch TV, it gives me an excuse to zone out and catch up on shows. It’s a different kind of “me time.”

I 10000% agree about parents having their own hobbies. Obviously kid stuff is at the top of the priority list while they are at home, but it is SO GOOD for them to see mom and dad doing things they enjoy and as parents it helps us transition to the “empty nest” stage a lot easier. I’ve watch so many of our friends struggle as their kids graduated and moved away because their identity was being a daily parent and they were lost without it.

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It eventually gets dingy, ha… but I’m just too lazy to separate! Please teach me how to find joy in laundry, you are my inspiration. I am going to try shows for this next round and I am sure that will help me. Thank you for sharing your experience. I always think that, if I lose myself now, what will I do when they are gone? Same with spouses… if we get lost in the kids only then when they are gone we will be strangers. I appreciate your comment a lot, Mindy. I hope your day is off to a beautiful start!

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When my kids were younger and it had been “a day” I would put myself in time out in the laundry room and watch TV while I folded clothes and the kids hung out with Dad. That is when I gained appreciation for it. Even now, many years later we do a lot less laundry since it’s just the two of us at home, but it is still my time to reset and get chores done at the same time. I find calm in the order.
For sorting, we have a basket type thing in the laundry room with 4 spaces, when we empty our room hampers we sorted the laundry (whites, colors, towels). My kids have sorted their own since they were 5-6. They also learned to do laundry by 10-12 – with very few mishaps (I’ve ruined more stuff than they have, dang chapstick!), and they did everyone’s laundry not just their own. If they needed something washed for sports, cheer or school they would gather every one’s hampers, sort the clothes and do a full load of laundry. It was the only way to get it all done with the schedules we had.

And yes, date nights and parent only vacations are also essential, just like hobbies. #1 it shows your kids what to expect from a partner/marriage and that they take constant work and connection, #2 it helps mom and dad connect and relax to take on whatever the kids throw at them next.

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Laundry: IF I DO THE LAUNDRY – I will do it HOW I WANT…and I throw it all in together. If I know something needs to be washed in hot water vs cold water, I will separate – but then only to put hot water safe items in the same wash, lol.

Lights: I HATE overhead lights. Please give me lamps, or peripheral lights that I can leave on vs turning on the overhead lights. Too harsh.

Having a Hobby Outside of Family: When the kids were little, not so much. But, in later years, I am so glad I started really getting back into the gym. My gym time gives me so much “sweat therapy” and I NEED it! Have I still felt guilty for it…yes, sometimes. But, I think I will always look back on their childhoods and wish I had done more with them even if I was with them 24/7.

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We sound so alike. It truly is the overhead lighting that kills me. So thankful you found your sweat therapy! It really is so hard to not feel guilt as a parent. I love to think about my mom in this situation… I look back and think she was the greatest thing ever and yet she has regrets etc… I think our kids don’t see our imperfections in the same way we see our own. At least, I hope! Sounds like you are an incredible mama.

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I am with you 100% on the lights. I love dimmers so that when I absolutely just turn on a light, it can barely be on. I have sunglasses on and, if it’s clear skies, a hat. Unless the sun has set, I have shades on. It straight up hurts if I don’t after thirty seconds of squinting. I told my husband I almost want those glasses I used to see them give people leaving the eye doctor- that look like a snorkeling mask but tinted ha.

AND the bed! Do you have a heated mattress pad? It’s heavenly. I turn my on in the evening so it’s toasty when I get in. It has two sides so my husband keeps his cooler, especially in the summer, but I crank mine year round. And have a fan pointed at my face hahaha it makes no sense writing it but it’s what I like.

I feel so understood right now ha!

Have a great day :)

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YES to the sunglasses… I am so with you on that. I must get the heated mattress pad and the fact it has two sides, that is perfect. It makes perfect sense to me. That is the ultimate sleeping situation. Thanks friend, you too!

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For Rachel: I had tibial stress fractures (one in each tibia) in high school and college and they acted weird for a couple of years after healing, too. The first one (the worst one) didn’t have visible swelling but “felt” swollen (if that makes sense) and had the sensitive bump if I pushed on it. We caught the second stress fracture earlier (I knew the warning signs that time) and it never had the swollen feeling after healing but still had the tender spot if I pushed on it. They were just a little different from each other, I guess. 30+ and 27+ years later, I can tell you that even though they felt weird for a year or two post-healing, they stayed strong, didn’t refracture, and eventually felt completely normal. Hope that helps a little bit. You got this! *highfive*

I separate my laundry into two loads – mixed colors and whites/towels/undies – but only because I add a scoop of Oxi-Clean to the 2nd load to prevent that stale smell towels sometimes get (it also helps the whites stay a little brighter since the load is still color mixed).

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That is so interesting. Thank you so much for sharing and helping Rachel with this. Well, now you have me thinking about doing that with my towels. I cannot stand that smell. Hope your day is off to a wonderful start, Ruth!

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I never sort laundry either. I’ll only do a load when a persons basket is full and I keep three separate baskets. One for Daniel one for me one for the kids that way I have even less to do in terms of sorting out what belongs to who! oh, and I don’t fold the kids I just throw it into their drawers… They’re going to mess it up anyways! Follow me for more laundry hacks ;)

My chickens are OK! We started with six and now we have only two left… We lost a few to dogs, one unknown and others to illness. I think we will get some more this year!

Okay WHAT I’ve never heard of eating mango skin, should I try this?! Mind blown

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Hi Janae! I separate towels because they’ll leave lint on other things but everything else goes in together! My husband washes his socks separately. After a while we just decided to do our laundry separately and that was a great decision! I don’t have to do laundry that often anymore, basically once every two weeks or when I run out of sports bras or something. Men’s clothes are just bigger and take up so much more space so it’s a great deal for me!
Yay for almost taper time! Another workout in the bank!!

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So I sort all laundry and wash in cold, warm, or hot. When all my laundry is caught up and the last load goes in the dryer I’ll do one last random load late in the evening of everyone’s clothes they wore that day and any towels that were used. My favorite favorite favorite load of laundry to do is everyone’s summer-worked-in-the-yard-sweaty clothes. That means we had a good day.

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Hi Janae!! I am a long time reader- maybe from the beginning!! But rarely comment. I’ve loved your blog for as long as I can remember… it always makes me smile one way or another. I had to laugh when you said you want your house dark bc I’m the same way! I’ll be getting ready in the dark or with minimal lighting- I honestly think my eyes have gotten sensitive or something as I’ve gotten older bc I also feel like things are just TOO BRIGHT. I’m often heard telling my kids “are you landing planes in here!?” Hahah. I like my house like a cave. I hope you have a great day <3

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Dark house livers UNITE! Hahaha it just feels so right. Thanks for sharing and reading over the years, that means the world to me. I hope your Thursday is off to a wonderful start, Brittany!

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Contrary to most, I do sort my laundry :). And I wash my running clothes separately…they really stink. I’m
Thinking I’ve probably kept many items for too long and the stench is ingrained. Curious, how often do you turnover your running clothes?

Not sure the guilt ever goes away completely, especially with long runs on the weekends. I try to do them early enough that it doesn’t impact family time.

Happy almost weekend

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If it’s dark outside and there is little natural light, I need ALL lights on in the house. I wake up at 4:30am to go to the gym and I walk into rooms and turn the light on in each room. It helps wake me up.
I don’t separate my clothes for laundry. Workout, work or casual clothes all go together. I do separate towels and underwear to wash together because I wash those on warm. I wash my clothes on cold. When I buy new jeans, I wash those separate 1-2 times just because I like dark jeans and they do tend to make the water blue the first 1-2 times.

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I don’t separate laundry either :) your paragraph about parents having their own hobbies and interests is really resonating with me right now. I just had my first baby 5 months ago. While I LOVE doing things with her, sometimes I have a hard time going out for runs or finding time to do other things I used to love when I know there’s other things I could catch up on around the house.

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Ha! I like to have every light on in my house.:).

I do not have kids but that comment you made about having your own thing and taking the pressure off of your kids to fulfill your happiness… That is a really good point! I always felt like my parents didn’t have outside activities and they were relying on me and I really think that was true. It put a ton of pressure on me. I wouldn’t wish that on any child. Plus having your own interests makes you a more exciting person to be around! I truly believe parents who to take time for themselves are able to devote more QUALITY time to their children.

Great job on the workout! I hope Boston weather is perfect for you. You deserve a wonderful experience.

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Oh, and I totally agree with all laundry going in together!😊

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For Rachel: I had a stress fracture in my tibia in 9th grade (FYI I’m 41 now). I was kicked HARD in the shin in soccer. After it healed, and TO THIS DAY, the bone right there feels a little rough – like there’s a “dent” and I still have minor (MINOR) pain time to time. It’s not a re-stress fracture….just what happened to the bone due to the impact.

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I’ve never seperated anything..it all goes in…up until recently I used hang dry my training clothes, not any more….sometimes I may seperate heavy towels or something….
I had a hernia before I started school….may or may have not had something to do with me lifting my tricycle
I have to cut up an apple before I eat it…..that’s a recent thing, I love apples, especially whenever I visit the Okanagan and almost right off the tree….I’m possibly the only guy who prefers veggies (all of them) fruit) and am not a fan of anything with the word meat in it…weird huh?

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You are 100 percent correct about kids and running/hobbies. Thanks for stating it. People (including me) need to hear exactly what you said. It’s healthy for parents to do things they love and the kids are happier because of it. P.S. I do not separate my laundry.

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Wow, you have hernia in your belly button but it hasn’t given you much problems? I had mine too a few years ago and it was so painful that it became nauseating and I had to have an emergency surgery!
I’m glad yours isn’t giving you any trouble :)
I used to not separate the laundry either but I started getting tired of fuzzy/white black leggings because the fuzziness from fleece/hoodies would get on the black leggings.
Can’t wait to see your finished remodeled house!

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