A progression run hadn’t happened in a while, so it felt like a good idea to try one out on Saturday. It was a gorgeous morning, and I love the challenge of pushing myself a bit harder with each mile. My splits weren’t exactly a progression because it was a hilly course, but it was a progression run as far as effort goes. 10 miles @ 7:24 average.
If I haven’t convinced you to come visit Utah yet, I will keep trying.
This is how dedicated I am to doing all of the extras with my running these days—> I brought tools WITH me to St. George.
We went to Sand Hallow for my first time ever.
My brother and his family met us there.
Beck could not get enough of the water…
Or of the sand.
We planned on being there for about two hours but somehow that turned into 6 hours.
Sandwiches, Doritos, and popsicles… the best kind of summer day.
Alyssa asked me a bit ago to do a post about motherhood and my take on it all. How I fit running in and taking time for myself, how I make it a positive experience etc. Let’s go ahead and dive in and of course I will overshare and talk in bullet point format! EACH person’s experience is so different in what works for them, so know this is what I have found to work for me! I make a million mistakes a day but I truly love being a mom to these kids.
*Running makes me love motherhood more. I am positive that if I didn’t take time to do something that I love, my patience would be low, I would feel down a lot easier, and feel like I was losing myself. Luckily, I married someone who supports me in making it possible for me to have me-time. I also use babysitters or run ridiculously early to make it possible. I know I can be a better mom and less burned out if I do run. Running also helps me have the energy to keep up with them and take care of my physical health to take care of theirs.
*When I have felt guilty for running over the years I remind myself that if my kids choose to have kids, I DO NOT want them to give up their passions when they become parents so I need to be a good example of chasing my goals throughout motherhood too. My mom always had something she was doing for herself whether it was piano lessons, lunches with friends or French lessons. She was a great example to me of continuing to learn and grow as an individual!
*Most nights I lay down at night and feel like I messed up somehow. I’m learning that motherhood is a relationship, not a role, which helps a lot with these feelings. If I can find ways to connect with them throughout the day in small ways, I can let go of all of the ways I wasn’t perfect with them. I give it to God and go to bed but know if you do this at night too, you aren’t alone.
*I’m really working on learning that it is not my job to make them happy. I’m not a cruise director (that is what my mom would tell us if we ever complained about being bored and then she would give us a chore ha) and it isn’t possible for me to make their lives free of hard things. I have to remember that they are humans too and that their struggles are going to make them grow and become stronger. Nothing is worse than seeing them hurt and yes they are still small but they have already experienced some hard things and my job is to help guide them and sit in the pain with them.
*I bring them with me. Luckily, a lot of what I love doing my kids enjoy, so I pack them up with us and it makes things even more fun. When it comes to traveling with them it means we sleep a lot less but it’s worth it to us! We get outside a lot and everyone is happiest when we are outside.
*Being a single mom actually really helped me personally. There was a weekend each month or longer holiday periods where Brooke was gone and it was just me. For the first year of being a mom, other than running… ALL I did revolved around motherhood and then I went into a stage where I had days all alone after my divorce when Brooke was with her dad. It taught me that I had to find my identity and work on my relationship with myself. I look back now and I’m thankful I learned that when I did because it helps me so much now.
*I love how much kids teach me to enjoy the little things in life. Everything is so exciting to them and it rubs off on me and I love it.
*When I’m having a hard day in motherhood, I remind myself that I CHOSE this direction in life, and for some reason when I remind myself that, it helps me to take ownership over the hard rather than feel like a ‘victim’ in the hard parts of it all. It helps me to avoid being bugged that I’m tired or struggling because I remind myself that I chose the hard stuff that comes along with the job. Remembering the choice part of it gives me power over the hard.
*This one makes me feel pretty vulnerable but I struggle with the idea of not having a little one at home with me in the future. It’s all I’ve known for the last 8 (almost 9!) years and change is hard for me! I feel confident in helping little ones and I love doing that but worry about if I will be able to help them as they are teens etc. I need to stop worrying about the future and I also need to be comfortable with the idea of change and excitement over what is up ahead.
*Learning to be more present is a daily task for me in motherhood because it is flying by.
*This is something I definitely have never blogged about before ha but I really think it is so so important for parents—> “Suppression of self interferes with good parenting” from Sexual Sense of Self in Motherhood (listen listen listen)!
*There are definitely hard parts but I’ve never felt comfortable sharing specific examples of those online. I don’t want to share anything but positive things about other people online because I would feel terrible setting a reputation about a person that wasn’t positive.
*On the other side of the above topic, I feel like I need to do a better job sharing some of the monotony or my own personal struggles that happen. Social media can make it seem like people are happy all of the time but I’ve learned that happiness is an emotion that I don’t feel more often than I do if that makes sense. Most hours are just hours where we are getting things done or working through problems BUT if I can find the moments of pure joy and happiness throughout the day and hold on to those, life is good.
*One thing that Andrew and I have realized that we do in regards to having a blended family is overcompensate… When we have all of our kids it’s easy for us to go overboard on fun/activities/treats because we feel like we have to make up for the lost time. We are constantly reminding each other that we need to connect with them and spend quality time and that is enough.
And those are all of the random things I can think of right now but I’m sure I will make sure to write another post about it all if I think of more!
I would love to hear any and every thought you have about parenthood if you are one or if that is something you are wanting in the future or about whatever direction you have chosen and how you find joy!
What is something your parents did that you loved, I would love to hear so I can copy ideas!
Live near any lakes or rivers or the ocean?
Morning runners—> on average how long does it take you to get out the door for your runs?
I’m not a mom, but I relate so much to what you say about doing things that make you happy and having hobbies! That applies whether you have kids, are in a relationship, work a lot, etc! We all need something we are passionate about.
Also, love what you said about seeing how excited kids get and letting that make you excited for the little things too. Feel the same about dogs hahaha.
I got out of the house for my run this morning in 15 min. It was my first morning back running after a break (I was sick and needed to let my body recover). But so glad I took the time off because I felt healthy and ready to run today!
The Hungry Runner Girl
That is so true, it relates with so many different times in life, we can’t lose ourselves! Haha yep, dogs are the same way! I am glad you are feeling better and back to running again. Have a beautiful day, Mariah!
Colleen W Sprunger
I love that you mentioned over compensating because I struggle with that so much! I’m a working mom and I struggle with guilt so much and then when we’re together it feels like I HAVE to make him happy/give him a treat/buy him a toy/do something fun to make up for it. It doesn’t make him happier, it just makes his expectations high and me exhausted. I’d do way better to chill out and just BE with him.
YES, I feel this too as a working mom. When I had two kids, I always felt like I had to make every weekend special. And then we had twins…during a pandemic…so it has basically been survival mode for the past 11 months, and I have felt so much guilt over not doing enough fun stuff with my older two. But you are right – we put so much pressure on ourselves, and our kids are just as happy when we sit and play with them!
The Hungry Runner Girl
Colleen and Mollie! I can totally relate with you guys on this. Let’s take off the pressure and remember that they just need connection and to be seen… and you are both doing an amazing job at that while providing for them. I am impressed and I know they are too.
Janae, thank you for sharing everything! I feel so inadequate most days as a Mom and I have just one daughter. It is so hard for me to relinquish expectations of myself/motherhood and just “be” with my family. Your thoughts were really validating for me and I am excited ot listen to the podcast you linked.
In other news, after a really intense year my daughter is finally in a summer day camp (she is so happy to be with kids her age all day) and I find myself with a stretch of 8 weeks where I have time during the day for myself—for the first time since early March 2020. On my solo 6am morning run today I startled dreaming big dreams and I have a goal that feels quite silly for some reason because isn’t some super crazy Olympic qualifying time and so many people are so so fast and running these paces already but…I want to run a 5k in 21 minutes or less but the time I turn 40 in January 2022. This is a huge dream for me because I am one of those long plodding runners that could go happily for 9-10 minute/mile for days…I know I have speed in me (I ran quite fast in highschool cross country and a year or 2 ago ran a timed mile in 6:49) but I haven’t challenged myself in a long time. I definitely need to get back some strength and endurance. I feel I need this challenge for myself to regain a sense of confidence after this last year really humbled me physically and emotionally. I am not able to afford expensive private coaching ($100-200/month isn’t the cards for me right now) BUT do you have any book recs/downloadable plan recs that I might be able to purchase and follow to help me meet the speed goals? Happy summer! :) Nadya
Apologies for chiming in… Just wanted to say you can reach your goal of a sub-21 minute 5k!
I did it last November at the age of 52. I used the free Garmin coaches on Garmin connect. Worked a treat! ?
Go for it! As you said, you have the speed in you. Perhaps even a sub-20, who knows?
Catrina! Thank you so so much for the encouragement and inspiration. Also, I didn’t know that Garmin connect had free coaches! I will look into this today:) THANK YOU!
The Hungry Runner Girl
Nadya, thank you for sharing with me. I know those feelings all too well and I am so sorry you experience them. You are doing an INCREDIBLE job for your little girl. She is so lucky to have you. Let’s choose to change those feelings when they first pop up and focus on the connections we make each day with our children.
I am so happy your daughter is able to be in summer day camp now! I am thrilled bout your 5k in 21 minutes goal and I KNOW you can do it. I know you can. I am here to build you up along the way! I am going to research some good resources for you. Believe in yourself! You can and you will do this!
My boys are 6 and 8 and they are best buddies but they have reached a point where they bicker a lot and it is so frustrating. How do you handle that in your family?
The Hungry Runner Girl
I wish I had good advice for this! Brooke and Knox are only with each other 50% of the time so they don’t ever really fight and then there is such a big age gap with Skye and the big kids that they don’t fight either. If Brooke and Knox were with each other 100% of the time like most siblings, I am positive it would be a different story! Can anyone help with advice for Mary? You are doing an amazing job!
Motherhood is a relationship not a role. My mother was a great example of keeping up her passions and growth. YES!!
The first statement about relationship, it’s 360 degrees, and flows outward and inward. It is pervasive, and there are a lot of unknowns with kids. Be ready for anything. There can also be unknowns with ourselves. Look at you now taking the extras of running to the mat. I’m enjoying this part of your journey. Honor the struggle. You’re building character!
I had to do a double-take/ scroll back to the top when I realized it is you with your SIL. Your profile is different with shorter hair/ no ponytail.
The Hungry Runner Girl
I love that your mom was a great example of keeping the things she loved during motherhood. Thank you so much Lee! Yes, I keep forgetting about how different my hair is now too. Have the best day!
I know it’s hard to not beat yourself up over mistakes you think you made as a parent, but, for real, as long as none of your kids are in jail or the hospital come 9 pm, probably everything is fine. ALSO I’ve SEEN you mom with the kids and you do great with them, you support them but also let them explore on their own and grow.
The Hungry Runner Girl
Well, this made my morning. We had THE BEST time with you at dinner that night and I really hope that it happens again soon! Have a great day and thank you for the encouragement!
All your points are perfect! My kids are 18 and 12, and I do miss having a little one at home (SOMETIMES, ha ha.) Now my son is going off to college in the fall and I’m having a hard time dealing with that- but everyone tells me that having adult kids is amazing too. I guess every phase is great but it can be hard to handle, knowing that one phase is over forever. And, even though we’re not quite there yet, I’m already looking forward to my grandchildren!
The Hungry Runner Girl
HEY JENNY! You are going to have to help me with that stage up ahead! I can’t imagine how hard that must feel to know he is leaving soon. My sister and you should talk! Thank you for sharing, I needed this!
Hi Jenny! I also have teenagers and my oldest just finished his first year away at college. It was really hard for me when he left, but there were also great moments of watching him grow and succeed! He gave me the best hug I’ve ever had the first time we visited him! So make sure you enjoy the last couple of months of everyone at home but also know there are some great moments for both of you ahead.
This is all a great and refreshing perspective. I’m 34 weeks pregnant with our first child and am feeling all kinds of anxious, excited, etc. I especially appreciate the mindset about it being a relationship and not a stagnate role that I always will have to try to fulfill. Thank you!
Thank you for this post. I am farther down the line of parenting than you are and many of your followers. I 100% encourage you and your followers to keep their hobbies/interests up, be it exercise or book clubs or bible study, etc. There were times I had let my running diminish and I remember a few times my kids said, “Mom, go for a run, you’ll feel better when you get back. ” And they were right, and everyone was happier. Also, those things you remember about where you came up short and feel like you failed as a mother, most of it they don’t remember. When we talk about things, my kids are 18-25, sometimes I will ask about certain things I am sure they remember,….nope. It really is the relationship, the day to day.
The Hungry Runner Girl
Hey Nancy! THANK YOU thank you thank you for sharing your wisdom with us! I love that your kids would say that and you are right, everyone is happier when mom goes on a run. That’s what I think about my mom,I can’t think of any of the things that she probably thought she was failing at. Have a wonderful day!
I think there is definitely wisdom in being authentic in your blog in making sure you don’t paint a, “my life is dreamy all the time” picture…however on the flip side, if your life really IS positive and happy (overall…obviously it can’t be all the time), then I say write about it! Reading your blog is a short blip in my day, but it is always such a positive blip! I think it’s encouraging to read about women who adore being moms, who put family first, and who love blogging about the little joys of life. :)
The Hungry Runner Girl
Oh I love this! I am so glad it can be a positive part of your day! Thank you, it means a lot to me that you said all of this:) Have a beautiful day, Kelly!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I’m waiting to be induced right now (first time mom!) and reading your blog gives me so much hope that I will be able to find the balance between motherhood and maintaining my own identity. You always seem to do such a good job of being there for your little ones while still chasing your dreams.
Just had to post to say: Yay, Jacki! Congratulations!!! Wishing you a safe and healthy delivery. Your baby already has the best mom ever- You:)
The Hungry Runner Girl
JACKI!! I am so so excited for you! Please give me updates in the future, cheering for you! And you will rock finding that right balance for you.
Great post Janae – I appreciate your candor! Having raised 2 kids I can tell you that I think you and Andrew are doing a phenomenal job.
We are going through a once in a lifetime heat wave here in the Northwest – and the vast majority of people have no AC. Yesterday was the first time EVER Sea-Tac Airport hit 100 degrees 2 days in a row and today is supposed to be the hottest day EVER in Western Washington. And we have some fairly high humidity and dew point as well.
We get relief tomorrow when it is only supposed to be 90.
The Hungry Runner Girl
John, that is crazy! I am so sorry about what is happening in your area. I really hope you are able to stay cool today and I am so thankful tomorrow should be better. Your two kids are so lucky to have you as their dad!
Such a great post! Motherhood is definitely a relationship, not a role. And that relationship changes over the years as your kids change and grow and get older. Being open and truly ready to listen to them is so important. Especially during the teen years. But letting them figure things out in their own, knowing that you’re there to support them, is also huge! Sometimes it’s very hard, but everyone needs to learn how to navigate through rough waters.
You and Andrew are doing great as parents! And of course not every day is perfect, it’s not supposed to be.
Have a great Monday Janae ?
The Hungry Runner Girl
This is the teen advice I needed… THANK YOU WENDY! I really look up to you!
Thank you! Mom guilt is REAL! I experience a lot of guilt about having an only. That was never our plan to have “just” one child. So I/we overcompensate sometimes due to the guilt associated around something that was not in our control. You are correct though…we chose to be parents and God chose that he was going to be our only! Thank you for keeping it real!
I’m a new mom to an almost three month old baby girl. The biggest thing I have learned is to ask for help. I quit my job to be a stay at home mom and that was a bigger struggle than I anticipated. I didn’t know all the thoughts that would come with that change. I felt like I couldn’t ask my husband for help because he was working at home at a “real job” and I was not. But being a mom is hard work and a full time job itself so having the conversation and being open about my feelings really helped. My husband had no idea and now I don’t feel as guilty asking for help because I know I need time for me so I can be the best wife and mom possible.
I appreciate all that you’ve shared about motherhood, and the limits you’ve put on what you share! I think it’s so great how you respect your kids’ privacy with not sharing all of the lows..I know if my mom shared all my tantrums and hard years I would be mortified!!
I’m definitely a lake person- we just moved to Raleigh a few weeks ago and have been hitting up all of the lakes and are lucky to live about 5 steps to one. It’s so calming to me and I love getting out there on kayaks or paddleboards. My happy place! :)
Love all of this Janae. I also worry sometimes about not have little kids at home anymore. I love the preschool/primary age. But I keep reminding myself that I never thought I’d enjoy 4+ years and every time I’ve ended up saying the current phase is definitely my favourite, whatever it may be and hopefully that will continue. Maybe just because we love our kids and will love them at every age it seems not so hard? Or is that wishful thinking ?
You are an amazing mum. Love all of these tips.
Have an amazing week xx
Thank you so much for sharing! I am 12 weeks pregnant with our first and I am so nervous about juggling everything. We have never met but I have always looked up to you as a mother and a runner. This post made me cry, those pregnancy hormones are no joke!
Oh my word, I love talking about parenting and families! In MN we have ECFE (Early childhood family education) it SAVED me as a mom. The first half is circle time and crafts with parents and kids. Then the kids have a snack and the parents go “parent time” with a parent educator (where you can ask any question you may have, have any fears eased, form bonds with other parents, etc) and the kids play and stay with the child educator. I learned that what works for one family does not work for another. Every family has it struggles–I thought I was doing everything wrong and I was the only person ever to lose their patience with their kids. Plus, you get to share the joy and successes in parenting. For 2 years, I was a child educator and hope to do it again in the future. It was the BEST! I think every state should have it available!
We have a lot of lakes in MN, but somehow we live in an area where there is only 1 lake within 10 minutes, but thankfully there are about 20 lakes within 1/2 hour.
It takes me about 45 minutes to get out the door in the morning…when my kids were really little, it took me about 10 minutes–I needed to get out the door before someone woke up and needed/wanted my attention vs my husband, haha.
Have a Happy Monday, Janae!
I *love* your thoughts on motherhood and the lessons you’ve learned, the self-awareness it’s afforded you, and the space it has allowed you to carve out for being there for your kids.
And I want to tell you a bit about my parents. They’re self-made. First in their families to have gone to college (and for my dad, first to have graduated high school). When my parents got married, my mother taught high school English and Latin in an inner-city Toledo, OH high school that was drastically underfunded. While her soul-searching was sparked by different conditions than mine, she went through the same questioning: is being a teacher really serving me as well as it can, given the life I have (immigrant husband who was finishing a PhD in physics and engineering + being the only child to two middle-class, blue-collar Greek American and Greek immigrant parents + being a mother for a toddler and a new baby–me!!!). She decided that her skills would also be used well as an attorney, so while she taught during the day, she went to law school part-time at night and still raised me and my brother. And after we moved to NJ when I was 2, she worked hard to finish law school as quickly as she could given the time she had. And my father worked for a telecommunications company. And after law school, my mother decided that the best way *for her* to raise kids who fought to be their absolute best and who would not let anything or anyone limit them was to always work while raising us. So even when she couldn’t come to a dance recital or a band performance, she worked hard and made sure that my brother and I told her about every single thing we did. And if she couldn’t come to a performance, she made sure that she watched us practice when we were at home and she would cheer us on, big time, then. It was important to her that I grew up to never consider myself a second-class citizen because I was a girl, or because my brother and I had a funny Greek last name (which I have still kept–I love my name!!!), and that she made sure to raise us to always push for better than what we thought was our best, to never rest on our laurels, and to celebrate the great things we accomplished while striving for more so we could keep on learning. My father, in his own more quiet way, taught us the same values and prioritized lessons on working hard, on never letting even the smallest setbacks hold you back, and on leveraging what you had.
Their passion was their drive to push ahead while still being good, solid, honest according to their values, their upbringing, their faith, and their participation in their communities. My mom and my dad raised us to know the value of heard work and to do things the RIGHT way, even if people weren’t watching. Sometimes that would mean that you win, or that you get the job, or that you get the scholarship–and sometimes it would mean that you don’t. And that it is OK, that you learn to deal with it and feel your feelings and push ahead towards the next thing to learn, to strive for, to pursue.
As for lakes rivers and oceans: I live near the Chattahoochee River, which has some nice walking trails. But I am over 4 hours from the ocean. And to me that’s hard! I’m a “water baby” in the sense that I could stare at the water lapping up to shore all day and that salt water is one of the most beautiful scents in the world (but I am not…a swimmer…or a ‘hang out by the beach and sunbathe’ person…). Aside from some of the worries I have related to crime and human rights violations in the area, it’s really what I don’t like about this city!!! (Except at the same time I acknowledge that living by the water is VERY EXPENSIVE–and that the cities I do like and could consider living in are nowhere near the ocean. Boo!!!)
I loved this post, thank you for sharing! I’m a first time mom and I have been with my 10 month old almost 24/7 because of the pandemic. Now that things are better and I can go out and about again, I’m finding I really have to push myself to do so. This was a good reminder that I need to see friends, run errands on my own, etc. even if it’s hard for me to initially get out the door!
Love this! Thanks so much for sharing. I’m 9 months PP and a new mom. Motherhood has been SO MUCH more than I could of imagined, in all the absolute best ways. I love it, but I really struggle with finding balance with motherhood and “me time”. I have to really push myself to do things for me. I’m almost too aware of how fast time goes and I don’t want to miss a thing with him so as a result I don’t prioritize taking time to do the things I love for me. It’s a struggle! Again thanks for sharing!
I love your wording in all of this. I’m not a mom (or a runner), but I’ve always enjoyed following along with the vicissitudes of it all. Your blog has been a place of comfort for me over the years. I appreciate that you are intentional to add Joy into the world, while also sharing some of the harder parts in a way that is both relatable and protective of those you love. I admire you. Thanks for all you do, here and behind the scenes! We never know the ripple effects of our kindness, but I know for sure that it matters. ???
Not a mom but I’ve been reading your blog for almost 10 years (I was 19 when I started reading) and you have been a HUGE role model for that entire time period! So much of what you’ve shared feels relatable even though I don’t have kids yet and this is the type of blog post that you share that I know I’ll come back to if I’m lucky enough to become a mother! I know that sharing your thoughts online isn’t always easy but I’m sure glad you do because of posts like this! Thank you Janae!
I feel all of this as a Mom of four. It helps me so much too, when things seem tough, to remember that I chose this and always dreamed of being a Mom. I also try to remind myself how incredibly blessed I am to have my kids healthy and strong and so active and energetic. That always helps change my mood if I am struggling.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! This was absolutely lovely and will be a post that I save to come back to! Love that you said running makes you love motherhood even more. I like the idea of it being a relationship, not a role. And that it’s not your job to make them happy, but you help sit with them through the hard times and know that it helps them grow. So so true. Plus that it’s your choice. I just love it all so much. Thanks for opening up and being vulnerable and answering my question :) we are going to start “trying” in August, eeek!! Exciting!
Wow! This is one of my favorite blog posts. So many things I can relate to, but also so many great pieces of advice.
Growing up each parent took each kid out on a special day once a year. Sometimes it was as simple as walking around the mall and getting lunch with my mom.. other times it was bigger and it was as a day spent in a new city with my dad. Whether it was big or small, it was just as meaningful and there’s nothing like that undivided attention and time to bond with one parent at a time and no siblings around. My husband and I plan to do the same with our kids once they’re a bit older.
We live in the NorthEast and I could argue we have the most beautiful beaches here :)
Well said! When and if my daughter chooses to be a mom I would never want her to give up her interests and passions. Doing things outside the home definitely makes me a better partner and mother.
Oh my word! This is the best. Thank you for being so thoughtful and vulnerable sharing this. The line, “I’m learning that motherhood is a relationship, not a role” was a HUGE aha for me. Really nicely put–and something for me to remember!
I love Sand Hollow, you were down in my neck of the woods!! Weekdays are the best days to go when there aren’t so many people.
Janae, thank you for this post. I am helping my dad while he is battling health issues, and that feeling you described as a mother that you “messed up” – I’m fighting that in my role as daughter. This reminder came at the perfect to tell me to do my best and not worry about the rest.
The Hungry Runner Girl
Sending you both so much love. You are doing an amazing job. Please keep me updated!
i love reading your posts obviously but this is probably my favourite post that you have written in a long time. I do agree that you don’t want to fill your blog with negativity and want to fill it with the positive things but I know that it helps to read about the struggles too. I remember I had hit a very rough patch with my running years ago.. every single run was a struggle and everything hurt and then you wrote a post about how you had hit a rough patch with a few of your runs and it gave me the inspiration to keep going because if someone who is an amazing runner as you hit a rough patch then it was okay for me as well. So there is definitely a balance because even if you think its a negative post it could be the positive someone needs to keep going. I agree with someone earlier that said they feel they overcompensate with one kid.. I am the same. I have one.. but I have a very demanding job and am the primary breadwinner in our family so this past year to manage my job, home schooling my daughter, nursing a foot injury and not being able to run and all the emotions I had about my life being turned upside down with this pandemic definitely made me feel like I was failing in all aspects of everything.
I clearly enjoy reading your writings, but this is perhaps my favorite one in a very long time. I understand that you prefer to post happy things on your blog rather than negative ones, but I also understand that it might be helpful to read about problems. When you wrote a post about hitting a rough patch with a few of your runs, it gave me the motivation to keep going because if someone who is an amazing runner as you hit a rough patch, it was okay for me as well. I remember I had hit a very rough patch with my running years ago. Every single run was a struggle, and everything hurt.
Hi, Alyssa here again. I saved this post from many months ago when you wrote it. I had twin daughters a week ago (my first kids!) and my heart has just exploded into a million pieces over and over again. I cannot BELIEVE how much love I have for them. It’s the most incredible feeling ever. Currently they’re both in the NICU, but getting stronger by the day, and we hope to have them home later this week. Anyways I just want to say thank you again, for this post, but for also all of your posts and vulnerability of sharing your life online. Whether this is weird or not, you are definitely a “role model” for me. Mostly in motherhood, but of course running and just life in general as well. Your positivity is infectious and makes me strive to live that way as well. I feel like I’ve been learning from you and taking it in for many years! Been reading since post-divorce (it was actually a divorce post that got me hooked because I was like damn, this girl is not only cool but also super vulnerable and amazing!), and now that I finally have my beautiful daughters, it makes it all more real for me. So THANK YOU for this post, and for being who you are. <3 I hope you read this comment!
The Hungry Runner Girl
Twin daughters!!!! Congratulations. I am so thrilled for you and please keep me updated with how they are doing and I hope you get to bring them home soon! Your comment made me so incredibly happy. It truly means the world to me. Thank you for taking the time to write me to tell me this and to be my friend over the years! Keep me updated, Alyssa!