I hope your weekend was a fabulous one. We had a busy one but it was really great so here’s a little recap.
I talked more about our run yesterday but it was just the confidence building run that I needed after missing a big workout and having some not-so-great ones over the last month. Emilee and I hit a new PR of 37:25 for our 10k (on hills galore and we lucked out by never having to stop for any stoplights) and I felt really in control of the pace. I kind of wonder what we could do in a flat 10k race now:). It’s going to be sad when St. George is over so I’ll need your help with the post-race blues! I’ve loved working with this team. Splits for the 6.2—> 6:12, 6:05, 6:03, 6:16, 5:51, 5:56 and a sprint for the last .2.
Knox’s bday is on Friday but he won’t be with us so we decided to celebrate all day yesterday instead. Andrew didn’t have work so we started off the day with a special breakfast and presents. I love their friendship!
We watched their soccer games and Knox scored an awesome goal which seemed perfect for his day.
Then we spent the day at the arcade with one of Knox’s best friends followed by ordering his favorite pizza (if you live in Utah, Two Jacks is the best!) and having a movie night at home together.
We had a normal Sunday morning of pancakes and relaxing together.
Followed by church. These two were in the Primary program for our main meeting meaning they sung songs and talked about how they can be good friends to people in front of everyone!
After church we had our families over for a bday party for Knox!
Knox’s request for his bday party meal—> Pizza of course;).
My niece is catching up to me in height…how is this happening?!
My niece is rocking her running… in just a few weeks she has improved her mile time!
Skye sneaks in every cuddle possible with my mom.
I thought we would talk about an email that I got from a reader the other day and I would LOVE if you could help her out too:
“I was wondering if you could do a post on comparison trap while pregnant? I know you’re not currently expecting, but I am for the first time and surprised by how much my slowing down has gotten to me! Of course, I am excited to have a baby, but I am having such a hard time watching my fitness slow down and watching everyone around me speed up. I can barely keep up at my group runs (and I wouldn’t ask someone to sacrifice their training and goals for me) and I’m watching others nail PRs! I am trying to be grateful that I can still run, but I am struggling.”
I definitely think this is something that many people have experienced. I definitely had times when it was hard to see my fitness drop or to see how far behind I was from a lot of my running friends! I think that this can also happen to us during times of injury, illness or stressful life seasons too. It’s hard to see something that we’ve worked so hard for (our running fitness!!) start to fade!
Here are some of my tips for situations like this!
*Ditch the watch. I think I remember hearing something about how Kara Goucher didn’t even wear her watch during parts of her pregnancy (I could be way off but I think I heard this in a podcast). Slowing down is an inevitable part of pregnancy and if seeing those miles get slower causes you sadness, take away the thing making you sad (your GPS) and keep doing the thing that makes you happy (running)!
*Find other ways to measure your success. It’s hard as runners because for most of our running days we focus our success as an athlete on new personal speed records and personal distance records. During pregnancy/injury/illness/etc those new PRs are just not going to happen for a while. Find success in things like setting a goal to have a positive mindset about yourself for the entire 5 miles. You could find success in working on your form during a run. Find success in trying new places to run or find success in volunteering at races to help others achieve their goals! Find success in wearing an AWESOME costume for a themed 5k (I did that when I was pregnant with Skye and I loved that). Find success in talking to your new little one (I talked to Brooke/Skye a lot during my pregnant running miles with them) and planning your future together. If we can shift our minds from defining our success based on paces/splits to other successes, we will enjoy it all a lot more.
*If running with others is not great for you right now… then definitely stop! I’m sure they will be there for you when you are ready to run together again but if the comparison game is sucking the fun out of you then take a step back. Your friends will want the best for you and if that means you need a few months of solo running, take it!
*I really and truly believe that I came back after having both girls much stronger/faster than I was before. I’m not sure scientifically why that is BUT I do think that taking about a year off (between pregnancy and recovery) from speed/training plans helped me to get faster afterwards. So while running slower doesn’t seem like it would make us faster, I think it can in the long run. I think our bodies need breaks (and long extended ones sometimes too) so if you get frustrated by going slower during pregnancy, remind yourself that it is SO good for your body to take a break and you’ll come back faster. Having that time off during pregnancy made me crave/love speed more than ever and my body felt more refreshed and excited to do it again afterwards!
*Take the power! I really think that in life we don’t have control of the first thoughts that pop into our heads. They just zoom in based on past experiences or our situations or our personalities etc. BUT I really do believe that most of us have the control over the second thought. We can choose to dwell on the negative thoughts that pop in or we can choose to change them!
*Your body is so hard at work making a baby right now that slowing down is part of the equation. Don’t forget that this happens to every single person out there! You aren’t alone in this!
*YOU ARE ENOUGH EXACTLY THE WAY YOU ARE RIGHT NOW IN THIS MOMENT. No amount of running or money or popularity or travel or jobs or anything will change that about you. What you are doing is enough. You are enough. Whenever I remind myself of that, my anxiety lessens and my entire body relaxes and I feel like those are pretty clear signs to me that it is TRUTH!
And in case you missed last week, the top 3 most viewed posts were:
I would love to hear from you guys on this topic! What has helped you with the comparison game? What about during pregnancy or an illness or an injury?
What was the best part of your weekend?
When was your last PR… give me the details!
How long do you prefer to taper for a marathon?
-This time around we have a 10 day taper but I usually do a 2 week taper!