So, we were back to this for my run yesterday morning—> LONG SLEEVES.
Our mountains got a lot of new snow which I don’t love but I’m just going to say that our summer is now going to be pushed back to July-October;)
It was a really cold morning. I should have worn tights but I think the shorts made me finish the 7 miles faster because I wanted to get home as soon as possible and into a hot shower.
Who knows what happened the rest of the day until the late afternoon but I’m sure it was super exciting;) I know that I had a bowl of cereal for lunch because we were all over the place but we took my dad out later for an early Father’s Day present to the movies. It is one of his favorite things to do and he picked to go see Captain Underpants so the kids could come with us:)
We bring blankets to the movie theater, it’s normal. I gave the choice to my niece to have any candy that she wanted and she chose SMARTIES?!?!?!
Brooke insisted on rocking her rudolph socks with her donut shoes…
Andrew will be at the hospital for school doing shifts so we snuck in our date night together last night to grab some dinner.
We went to Happy Sumo (I worked their for two years so I know the menu pretty well:). We started off with their chicken lettuce wraps and ordered a bunch of sushi. It has been way too long since our last sushi night.
We came back to my mom’s house to find two artists very hard at work. Brooke has changed her profession desires from being Elsa to being a teacher and last night she told me she wants to be an artist.
And then she fell asleep on the way home.
Just go ahead and skip this part if you’re not in the dating scene and I’ll be back later today or tomorrow morning with much more running talk!
The other day Andrew and I were talking about the dating years that we experienced (aka the time where I didn’t know it was possible to cry the amount of tears I cried without becoming severely dehydrated) and it got me thinking about my five biggest dating tips that I learned during those years. I thought I would share them with any of you that might be in the dating world right now. I often get emails from different readers about what I did during my dating years so I thought I would share some things that helped me.
PS a picture from our dating days (literally days;)… this was right after we put money down on a lot to build a house and then the next day we felt sick about it (anxiety from our head to our toes) so we got out of it and figured out a much better option for our family.
1. You are the interviewer. Not the interviewee. (And the person you are out with gets to feel the same way!!) I remember for so long my thought process went like this—> “Oh no, I hope I am good enough for them.. I don’t know if I measure up, they will see quickly that I’m really not that cool.” Um, no. Something I learned over those years as my confidence increased (aka going from abnormally low to a normal amount) was that I just needed to be myself. I didn’t have to impress anyone. I just had to be me and have my EYES AND EARS wide open during the dating process and watch/listen for any red flags or things that weren’t going to work for me. Rather than constantly thinking/worrying that I was doing something wrong… I needed to be focused on figuring out if the person I was dating worked for what I wanted! I no longer went into dates feeling nervous that I wouldn’t be good enough and went into them investigating if the person I was dating could fill the position for boyfriend/potential husband/etc. Andrew fit the description of what I was looking for perfectly.
2. You will never settle for anything less than what you had that is causing you so much heartache. I remember break-ups and feeling so incredibly sad and hurt after them thinking I would NEVER FIND ANYONE AMAZING. I was sure of it. A friend of mine reminded me that I would never settle for anything less so from there I was only going to GO UP. She was right. 100% right. So if so-and-so had x, y & z qualities that I thought were so amazing, it’s not like I’m going to settle for the person I end up marrying to not have those qualities. I was only going to date someone next that had those amazing qualities plus some more… until I found the person with qualities A-Z that I was looking for. Struggling after a bad break-up… just remember you aren’t going to go for anything less next time, you will only date/marry people with more and more to offer:) The past is to be learned from but not lived in, so keep learning and moving forward!
3. Now there were stages in my earlier years of dating when I wasn’t serious at all about finding a husband and was just wanting to date and meet people and do whatever I wanted. BUT when I was serious about getting married again (aka dating after my divorce… I wasn’t just looking to hang out, if I was going to go out it was to find someone that I could have a future with) I was very upfront about my thoughts. I was very clear that I wasn’t interested in just hanging out… if I was going to get a babysitter, skip out on work for the night (aka when I do most of my blogging stuff) and invest energy into something, it was to date. Not to hang out. PS I said all of these things in a very kind way but I was also very honest. I was also very open with a lot of my feelings such as dating one person at a time if things were progressing. Some took that well/agreed and some did not (never saw them again ha) but it made it easy for me to weed out the people that were off dating everyone else when I was in a place where I wanted to be serious about dating one person at a time:)
4. Remember it’s okay to be alone. More than okay. I think once I finally realized that and was completely okay with that, I found Andrew. After my divorce I bounced from dating relationship to dating relationship always nervous that I COULD NOT BE ALONE. It burned me out, big time. Some time before I met Andrew I called it quits on the dating world. I was happy with my life with Brooke, with my work, with my family… I didn’t feel the pressure to be with somebody else. I enjoyed my time alone and spent a lot more time being still by myself. I got a Facebook message from a friend telling me about a blind date (and once I found Andrew I was like… SIGN ME UP) but leading up to that I just didn’t date for a while. I’m grateful for that time because I think I grew more then, than the years leading up to that. I realized that of course I wanted to be with the right person forever but that I wasn’t going to kill myself off trying to date/meet people/be gone all of the time to do so. When it was supposed to happen, it was going to happen and it did.
5. TRUST YOUR INTUITIONS. This one is one that my sister taught me and I held onto it (maybe that is why none of my dating relationships lasted very long at all for those years). She taught me to listen with every ounce to what my gut was telling me and I did and I’m very grateful I did. Trust those feelings of yours, don’t put up with mistreatment (EVER). If something causes you anxiety, uneasiness, uncomfortableness… peace out. That was my motto.
Also, if you are struggling with different hard things right now in terms of break-up, divorce or loneliness… hopefully these different posts might help you:
STAY HOPEFUL. It is always darkest before the dawn… I can PROMISE you that. The sun always comes up. Always. There is so much brightness up ahead.
I’d love to hear from those running in humid areas how you deal with the humidity! Maybe you can help other runners that are also trying to get through the humid miles! I’m always interested to hear what helps… HOW IN THE WORLD DO YOU DO IT!?! Would love to hear any of your dating thoughts/situations etc. I’m a little too invested in your lives probably and want all of your thoughts, not just about running. Last movie you saw in the theater? Who has seen Wonder Woman? I really want to see it! Ever worked in a restaurant? What did you like about it?