Sunday selfie before church.
The kids made up all sorts of random games.
The oven was full of pies/crusts/etc. so Andrew made sure we still got in our Sunday tradition by making sweet potato fries on the grill.
My afternoon was very involved with making pies.
Banana cream pie 4 life.
Banana Cream Pie and Salted Caramel Apple Pie. I am thankful for pies. The only change I made in the two recipes was in the salted caramel apple pie… I couldn’t find the Peters Caramel that it calls for so I just melted the Kraft caramels with a little bit of whole milk for the caramel. I really like making pies.
We made our way over to my sister’s house for our Thanksgiving dinner. My sister doesn’t have three of her kids for Thanksgiving and we will be gone so the best decision was to celebrate together yesterday.
I love when people make Thanksgiving sandwiches.
We had a lot of great discussions over dinner that included looking up a lot of different questions on google.
Then we got to business with the desserts. Okay, both pies are insanely good but I think the salted caramel won… please make it if you are in charge of making a pie for Thanksgiving.
I love it too. I am not sure if Brooke was entertained with Knox’s trick;)
We then just hung out for awhile before coming home.
Andrew’s new phone cover made me happy:
Excited for some good runs this week (along with a 1/2 marathon on Thursday). Brooke put on my Garmin and told me she was me:)
Feel free to skip through this section today if it doesn’t apply to you but I really wanted to share my experience with anyone reading who is struggling.
The holidays are here and while, now, I am in a much better situation than ever before, my heart still aches thinking about how hard the holidays can be. It is an amazing time of year for a lot of people but it is also a time of year that is incredibly lonely and isolating for others. For most of my life the holidays have produced some of my favorite memories but there have been years where I felt like I hit rock bottom during the holidays. I just want to let other people know that they aren’t alone if this time of year is hard. I feel like the holidays hurt more than other times of the year if we are already feeling lonely, or missing people or struggling with a change in life.
I remember the holidays three years ago were probably one of my lowest times ever. I felt so alone. While I had the best little one year old at the time and an incredible family, I felt more alone than I ever had in my life (this was just a few months after filing for divorce).
It was Christmas Eve and my plans that evening fell through (it was a long story) and Brooke fell asleep. I remember sitting there by myself on the floor of the basement and I just couldn’t stop thinking about how I was the ONLY one on the planet that was alone that evening. That everyone else had somebody/people to celebrate with and I was sitting there completely alone. I remember feeling like my chest completely caved in on me and my crying was so intense that I could barely breathe. It hurt. Of course my mom and dad were there quickly to help me out but even thinking back to that night makes me tear up. I’m typing this at 4:23 on a Saturday afternoon with tears in my eyes feeling very grateful for how much better life is now but hurting thinking about the people that are feeling that way right now. You aren’t alone if the holidays are hard for you… especially because sometimes social media tricks us into thinking this time of year is perfect for everyone else.
While I think that time (isn’t it amazing what days, weeks, months and years do for us when something hard happens) is one of my favorite healing factors, there were a few things that I did in the NOW to help me during the hard times (these worked for me, do whatever works best for you)!
*Running of course. Being active. Movement. Running brings me gratitude, fresh air, fresh thoughts and a brighter perspective on life. While many times it would have been easier for me to just stay in bed all day long (which, I did do at times)… getting out made the world of difference for me.
*Prayer. I have said this before but on those days that getting out of bed was too hard, kneeling first in prayer made it a lot easier to stand. Building a relationship with your higher being (whatever you believe in) and expressing true emotions/feelings/thoughts through prayer made me feel a lot less alone. It built a foundation and relationship with my God for me that helped during those really dark times.
*Service. Taking time to process and deal with my thoughts and emotions was incredibly important but getting outside of myself also helped me a lot. Focusing on somebody else’s problems and helping them always helps me to forget my own. A lot of times that meant probably over focusing on Brooke and doing things for her but we would also try to deliver things to people, do the angel tree, the food kitchen with my dad etc.
*Traditions. Even though my circumstances at the time were not what I wanted, I decided that I was going to create traditions with Brooke and make the absolute best of the situation. I am so glad I did because we now have traditions that we will do forever.
*Hope. Having the belief that things will get better, that it is always darkest before the dawn (I can confirm this to be true) and that just sticking to the things we know are right for us… will result eventually in improved circumstances. Three years ago my heart hurt so incredibly bad with loneliness and I am positive this year will be my favorite holiday season ever.
Email me if you need any help, if things are hard for you this holiday season. Please know that you are not alone.
Wouldn’t it be great if we all did a little something extra for someone who is experiencing hard times in their life right now?!
Whether we are struggling with the death of a loved one, cancer, divorce, severe financial problems or some other serious problem, we all need help sometimes. What helped you through your rough times?
Has running been one of the main things that has gotten you through tough times?
Who has a Turkey Trot this week? What is the distance?
What pie is your absolute favorite? Any pies that you do not like? Anyone that doesn’t like pie in general?