2015 was kind of an eye opening year for me which helped me to choose my theme for this year.
Keeping myself busy all of the time has been one of my coping strategies when tough stuff happens. That first year (ehhhh two years) after filing for divorce I booked up every minute of our lives. Most days started early (we would meet at 5 a.m. each morning) with friends for a run. The afternoon was jam packed with all sorts of activities for Brooke and I ended each day with late nights on dates/out with friends/froyo with my mom and then working whatever hours I possibly could (I know it doesn’t seem like it but I work about 30 hours a week:) in between or when I should have been asleep. It was how I dealt with my divorce without actually dealing with it. The busier I was, the less I thought about the pain I was going through. AKA running away from my problems—> I have mastered this. And then this last year I think my body finally told me enough is enough and my GI system went nuts. I had some anxiety issues spring up during this time too and my sleeping was really off.
After every time I ate (even if it was just something tiny…) my stomach would kill (ulcer) and then I would bloat out super painfully. I realized that I really couldn’t keep living the way I had been and that I needed to focus in on taking care of myself and slowing down a bit. It was my aha moment that our brains and bodies are ridiculously connected. The stress/anxiety/never slowing down takes a huge toll on us physically. When we aren’t mentally in a good place I think it can be seen through our physical health at times.
More skin than I will ever show on my blog normally ha but I couldn’t even suck in if I wanted too… my stomach felt like it was going to explode pretty much all day long.
I wanted to share a few of the things I have been trying to do over the last few months to try and slow down (<—doctors orders) and take care of myself a bit more. I still love to be out and about doing things with Brooke and seeing the people we love but there are a whole lot more nights at home with Brooke on the living room floor and books read in bed instead of being out busy constantly.
I think a lot of us runners are kind of Type A Perfectionists a bit and so deciding to allow myself to let go more of the things that I cannot control has been the focus of this year so far. I think I told you about this already but one of my goals each day has been to meditate/study church materials each morning before Brooke wakes up. I love these two quotes—> 1- Meditation: because some questions can’t be answered by Google. 2- You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.
Music has a huge effect on me. A fast song with lyrics that pump me up can help me to get a personal record when my body is ready to quit during a race. I can’t tell you how many times I have cried over different song lyrics that touch me or bring back certain memories (oh goodness… one time my wedding song came on the radio a few months after my divorce and I had to pull over the car because the song hit me so hard). Music can also completely relax me within just the first minute of certain songs. Each song on this list relaxes me for different reasons… memories/lyrics/slow beat… these songs are strangely really special to me. They help me to slow down when I really need it.
A bubble bath (with or without some chocolate;) can work wonders for me these days. It helps me to just slow down, sit still (hard for me to do), think, feel, pray… whatever I need. Taking a second to just relax each day has been a game changer for my sleep/gut/anxiety issues.
Brooke is a huge bath lover (she would stay in there for an hour if she could) and she smells like heaven after using the Ultra Calming-dreamy lavender bubble bath and lavender shampoo/body wash. It is the best way to calm her down for bedtime.
About the above picture with our go to for the good stuff——> The Honest Company has updated their Bath & Body products and I have been loving their new scents (4 total)!! They also added a pump dispenser (which makes bath time for Brooke/washing my hair easier and they increased the size from 8.5 oz to 10 oz (same price… an even better value now!!!). Brooke knows when our box comes in the mail that I am going to be in a good mood;)
I am a huge believer that scents affect the way we feel big time and I am loving the Ultra Calming to help me to slow down. The new scents come in the shampoo/body wash, conditioner, bubble bath and lotion except for purely simple (this one is scent free and it comes in the lotion).
Their lotion is bomb (UTAH IS DRY!!!!) and the lavender scent keeps me feeling more relaxed throughout the day. Their Deeply Nourishing lotion (apricot kiss scent) is especially good for dry skin too.
The Honest Company is all about making products that are effective, safe, accessible and responsible… their goal is to help people to live a healthy and happy life. That is why I love sharing it with my people too and giving it as gifts to the people I love the most. I love The Honest Company products to help me and my peeps to take care of ourselves, to slow down and to smell delicious (the sweet orange vanilla is my second favorite after dreamy lavender). PS that is my cute niece in the background… I swear she and Brooke look more and more alike.
Self-care really is one of the most important things we can do to manage stress but it is usually the first thing to be neglected during stressful times. Life is crazy busy for every human and we can fill up every single second of our days with even very important people and things… but I am learning that in order to take care of others we have to take care of ourselves first. I love it when people start to run and stick with it because it is something we can do each day to take care of ourselves, to destress and let go of some anxiety. It is weird how running helps me to feel like I am slowing down in life—> it helps me to feel present, alive and it gives me time to think clearly. Along with exercise, just adding in simple things each day to continue to take care of ourselves can make the biggest difference in our mental and physical health. We only have one body and we all want to keep running until we are 101 right so let’s try to set aside time to slow down and do the things we need to to take care of ourselves.
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What are some of your favorite relaxing songs?
What do you do to care of yourself and destress/slow down… favorite ways to relax?
How does stress affect your body?