I told you I would give you some details about dating in my Top 10 favorite things about being single post so here ya go…

I started dating in December.  Why?  Every person and every situation is so different but for me I felt like I should at that time and the people in my life that knew what my situation had been and what I had been through completely supported me in this decision.  Some reasons I felt like dating again…

1.  It got me out of my basement.  Most of my friends are married and they hang out with their spouses at night…  I needed to get out and do things because I was going nuts.  Brooke was going to bed at 7 every night and I just needed to be out and distracted.

2.  It helped me to move on and to realize that there are a lot of really really really amazing people out there.  

3.  I was in desperate need at that time to just laugh and smile, to build some confidence and to go do new things.  

So far, so good.  At first it felt really weird (for obvious reasons… um I was with the same person for 6 years and never thought in a million years that I would be dating again) but like I said before, what happened in the past now just feels like it was a bad dream and not even real so dating is just my new normal now.  

I had one extremely strange dating experience a few months ago but other than that I have gone on some really fun dates and have gotten to know some really great people.  I love the excitement that comes with going out on a date and getting dressed up (and actually washing my hair on a regular basis).  I am beyond awkward in big group activities with single people for some reason but when I am on just a normal date I feel like I can be myself.  I don’t know why the big group things intimidate me so much but I think I am getting more normal at them… hopefully?! Who knows.

When I first even entertained the idea of dating again I was really worried that people would see me as having a lot of baggage because of what I had been through.  A good guy friend of mine wrote this to me and it changed my perspective on my situation:

“Your situation simply provides an opportunity for someone else to have one of their dreams fulfilled… Finding you.  That person will embrace your situation with no hesitations.”

That made me feel a lot better.

I have the best set-up by living at home because I am still able to put Brooke to bed at night and then go out on dates because I just give my mom the monitor before I leave.  I kind of love it here.

I am happy exactly where I am and that feels really good.   

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And 5 random things about my Sunday.

1.  I picked up this salad on Saturday to eat for lunch on Sunday but I actually ended up eating it for breakfast instead.  I couldn’t wait a moment longer to dig in.  Nothing like some bleu cheese crumbles first thing in the morning.    

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2.  I teach the 7 year olds at church.  I found out today that all it took was one chocolate egg per child to keep them perfectly behaved for an entire one hour class.  The things that humans will do for chocolate.

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3.  My nephew refused to turn around for this picture.

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4.  I burned my forehead pretty good.  Don’t text and curl your hair at the same time.  Bad things happen.  

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5.  My sister didn’t have her kiddos for Easter so we celebrated yesterday instead.  I made sure to eat the little chocolate eggs of heaven while the baskets were being constructed.  PS it is a really good idea to do the baskets the week after Easter because all of the candy was 75% off.  

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Any funny/cute/whatever you want stories about dating to share? I would LOVE to read them!

People in relationships… how did you guys meet?

Ever burned yourself with a curling iron/straightening iron? (Yes, I am looking for people to help me feel like this is a common occurrence so I don’t think I am the only one).

Rate your weekend on a scale from 1-10!!!

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I’m really happy for you Janae and you truly deserve to be happy. If you ever need a really bad first date story send me an email. I have a great one from the Lolz archive.

I’m glad you are doing what is best for you though. You don’t need to explain or defend anything. It’s your life and only you know what’s best for you. :-)

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My SO hadn’t told his parents he was dating, and when he said ‘so, mum Ive actually been seeing someone’ she immediately went ‘is it Fiona?’- apparently although we hadn’t met he talked about me constantly and she’d sussed.

We actually met through running team!

Yes I have burned myself- big cheek stripe!

My weekend was maybe a 6, not amazing :)

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“Your situation simply provides an opportunity for someone else to have one of their dreams fulfilled… Finding you. That person will embrace your situation with no hesitation.”

Annnnd that made me tear up at 8 a.m. on a Monday morning. It is SO true. I know I’ve told you this before, but you are seriously one HECK of a catch and will blow the socks off an amazing man who will absolutely adore you.<3 <3 <3

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Thanks for such an honest post :) and good for you for dating again and having fun, you deserve it. My mom started dating after her divorce with two children, but that wasn’t a problem and we got a great stepdad who loves us. Hope everything goes well for you

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You are not alone, I have burnt my forehead with both the curling iron and straightening iron! I hope it didn’t leave a red mark!

I met my significant other 10 years ago at a Halloween party in college. We were the only two people not dressed up so it made sense that we had to talk to each other :D He didn’t call me for like a couple weeks after we met, but when we finally got together we were stuck like glue!

Your friend’s advice is awesome and spot on!

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So happy for you, Janae!

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I’m glad dating is going well. P.S. I often eat salad for breakfast, glad I’m not the only one. If you have have breakfast for dinner, why not dinner for breakfast?

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:-))). You really deserve to find happiness and I look forward to hearing about your dating adventures!

Ouch for the forehead and now I want candy for breakfast!

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What your friend said was perfect. He completely correct. I’m so happy that you’re getting out there and dating. It is a great thing!
I met my husband at church in hawaii, we had actually met 4 years earlier but I didn’t know it (or well remember it) and I’m so glad we didn’t get together in 2008 it wasn’t our time. And God knew the life we would have had then would have been tough. 4 years of deployments, overseas ect.
This was our time and meeting at church was my fairy tail. Being on the same page as someone else (your special someone else) is so vital.
Have fun!!!

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I have burned my forehead and neck several times n my life! Lol

My weekend was……a 9.

LOVE 75% off Easter candy…even if it is fostering my jelly bean addiction…

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I’m so happy that you’re putting yourself back out there and having fun with dating! Easter the week after, what a great idea!

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That quote you shared from your friend is amazing – absolutely true and so well written. I think it’s fantastic that you’re dating again since you feel ready for it. You deserve to be happy and loved!

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You are too cute :)

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Go Janae Go! You are way too fun and pretty to not start dating:)

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amen to that! some men will be soooooo lucky to enjoy a date with Y-O-U!

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So happy for you & whoever gets to go on dates with you is one lucky man!! You are such a sweet lady :) I hope this quote makes you look at baggage differently… it helped me a lot! “Everyone comes with baggage, Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack”!

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After my divorce was finalized, I was pretty shattered and took some time to heal. I spent an entire summer at my parent’s lake home resting and recovering. I was moving to a new state and a new job in the fall and my parents reminded me that the future was a clean slate. In the Fall, it was awkward at first to date because I had been with my ex for 10 years! But I realized that there were so many wonderful people in the world (even if they were not a romantic match). Anyways, I was eventually asked out by a man who worked in my building and rode the same elevator. We went on our first date and it was simply magical. He had never married and had resigned himself to bachelorhood…until me! He said, “I am sorry you had such a horrible experience before me but this path was meant to be, because without it we would not have found each other.” We married 8 months after we met and we are now expecting our first child in 4 weeks (or less)!

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This story made me happy. Congrats!

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Hot dang. For one, I would give my weekend a 3-4 because it wasn’t that exciting and a little awkward but 2- I have the best dating stories…before I met my current boyfriend I made sure to say “yes” to every date offer, because you never know what can happen. It didn’t necessarily get me a guy for a few years, but it definitely lead to some amazing memories and a lot of laughs.

I met my current boyfriend out with friends one night in 2011. Several months into the relationship, he had to get a new cell phone…and transferred his contacts over from a cell phone he had a few years ago. Sure enough, my name was already loaded into the list…because apparently we had met and exchanged numbers in 2006, but neither one of us pursued it at the time. I blame it on him.

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I think that what your guy friend told you is SO true and quite awesome of him! I started dating my husband in college and my funny dating stories are too long :). We dated for about 1 year and were engaged for 2 months!
While everyone needs time to get over something like a divorce…there is no reason to dwell on it…I think getting out there and meeting someone will help :)… good for you!
Funny thing is that although I started dating him in college (We were both at the same small college and we both liked running) he was actually my AWANA (a youth group for kids) teacher when I was in jr high :)…I don’t remember because I only went to the group every once in awhile. He tells me I was the crazy girl who always brought friends :)!

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What great advice your friend gave you! I’m going to have to remember that one!

I went on a date on Saturday with a guy I was CONVINCED was not my type. I told everyone I knew that I was sure it wouldn’t work out, and even considered canceling to save us both some awkwardness. Wouldn’t you know the date turned out to be one of the best I’ve ever been on?!

I definitely learned my lesson there :)

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I’m so glad you’re back out there. Dating after a hard breakup was always the thing that helped me move on the best. I met my husband at a bonfire through a mutual friend. We were friends for almost a year before he ever asked me out but we knew after the first date that we’d be together forever :) so cheesy lol

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Good for you Janae! I am really happy that you are out there dating because you deserve the best and to be happy! You have so much to offer and I think that this is a great time to rediscover who you are later in life!

I met my husband the first month of our freshman year at Auburn and we’ve been together ever since!

My weekend was 9! The hubs was out of town on a bach party but I ran a 5k on Saturday and placed 3rd my age group and then my mom and sis came up from SC and we went shopping all day and they spent the night! It was really fun :)

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Omg! Such fun starting to date! I’m sure it’s weird but super exciting! That’s awesome! And 62 miles?!? Wowsers! Amazing! Will you com to colorado and teach me to run like you???

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Loved what your friend said to you. Sometimes you have to re-work your thinking to realize the good that comes from a rough situation.

I met my husband on the track while he was doing a workout.

I accidentally burned a friend with a curling iron on her ear. It looked really bad, but good thing was she wasn’t mad at me.

Weekend was a 10, because my first year of grad school is over and I got to visit my husband who lives in another state for the time being.

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Thanks for sharing, whatever it takes to get you back out there laughing and having fun again is all that matters.

Dating Story – I once blind folded my fiance and drove her all over town so she wouldnt know where we were going and ended up going to one of our favorite restaurants with about 20 friends and family waiting.
How did we meet – Actually met through coed softball.
Weekend – 10, we had our race on Saturday, Fiance killed it with me pacing her the whole way, then post race fun with friends, great weekend.

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How exciting! I would love to hear what the extremely strange dating situation was…

My husband and I met working at a music club seven years ago, sitting next to each other checking IDs. We didn’t start dating for a year after being friends (I was dating someone else at the time), but as soon as we started dating we pretty much knew we would get married. I moved across the country two months after we started dating, and we’ve had to do tons of long distance along the way, but we have been married for one year, and are now traveling the world together. It’s the best!

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Love what your guy friend wrote you. It’s very true!!!!
my weekend was a 10+++++
I PR’ed yesterday by almost 10 minutes at the NJ Marathon. I literally enjoyed the entire 26.2 and only felt the struggle physically somewhere around mile 23….but just told myself i only had to run a 5k.

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I met my hubby when I threw a snowball at his dorm window in college! We would rate our weekend as a 10 because we spent it back on the Virginia Tech campus attending the Maroon/White Spring game. The weather was gorgeous!

I burn the skin just over my ears way too often with my flat iron, so you’re not alone!

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I think it is great you are putting yourself out there – you deserve to be happy. I actually attempted a new curling method on my hair this weekend and burned my pinky pretty bad – I took it as a sign and stayed in for the night!

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Oh don’t worry I have burned myself plenty of times with a straightener or curling iron. My met my husband at a happy hour for an Oriole’s game (we weren’t going to the game but some of our mutual friends were so we all went there after work). I was visiting a friend in Baltimore and had no intention of meeting any guys…but it just worked out! Sometimes the perfect person comes along when you aren’t even looking.
I would give my weekend a 7…it wasn’t anything special but it was relaxing and I got alot done!

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Ah, dating. I never thought I would be divorced, let alone dating again but found myself back in the dating scene almost five years ago. A crazy mix of funny stories, terrible times, terrific times and a few amazing relationships/people in between….Not easy as a divorced mom though in fact I have an article on the subject coming out soon. So much to be said about it! So glad you are enjoying yourself!

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Love the quote from your friend. It’s so true, you are amazing and will find a guy that will love you and treat you well. I’m so glad you’re back to dating, it’s a fun time! :)

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Wow, good for you! I’m not there yet. I’ve been with the same person since I was 19, so that’s fourteen years. A third of my life. Dating…I just can’t right now.

Do you find that it’s hard to find guys willing to date a girl with a kid? Especially since you are so young…IDK, just wondering how many under-30 guys are willing to sign up for instant parenthood.

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Dating doesn’t mean “instant parenthood” though.

Dating means someone is getting to know you–who you are as an individual, and who you are as a parent. A kiddo shouldn’t meet a significant other until you’ve been dating them awhile any way and by that point they should be thrilled at meeting the person who is part of you–because they should love YOU so much that they can’t wait to meet those who are so important to you, including your kids.

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You nailed it Lolo!

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My parents split when I was 2 and divorced officially when I was 5. My dad and stepmom married when I was 7. They were both still relatively young (31 and 32), my dad had my older sister and myself and my stepmom had no children. She’s been fabulous in our lives and I hope she came into it thinking of us as awesome bonuses instead of “in spite ofs”

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They aren’t signing up for “instant parenthood.”

Personally, I find your “willing to date a girl with a kid” terminology offensive. My husband and I both came into our relationship with children and both enjoy spending time with each other’s children. It shouldn’t be “dating someone in spite of the fact that they have children” it should be “I’m dating someone who is fabulous and part of what has made her so fabulous is her children and how she loves them.” (or him) etc.

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Sorry, didn’t mean to offend–I definitely don’t think anyone should date anyone else if it is “in spite of” children; I certainly wouldn’t. And I am not judging Janae at all for dating! I was just noting (somewhat wistfully, actually, because I wish it were different) that I am not really over my ex. For the kids part, I have a lot of single, never-married friends. They do not want to date people with children or divorces. I can find it offensive (although I don’t) but that doesn’t change it.

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To each his own and that is kind of what dating is all about. Finding out looking into searching, etc. It might seem that it isnt for you maybe. But for others it is great.

For me, I met my husband a divorce dad with three awesome kids (12, 10, 7). It was a dream come true for me. I fell in love with them and I couldnt begin to tell you that I never gave birth to them because I did in my heart.

Anyway, not to get all mushy. Dating doesnt always lead into marriage but I am so happy it did for us, we are married 15 of the best years of our lives :)

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Yay, how exciting!!!

Umm curling iron/straightening iron burns are the worstttt! :( Been there, done that too many times..

I’d give my weekend a 9… It was low-key but just what I wanted :)

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That note from your friend was so sweet! And so true :)!

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That quote is so true, and whoever dates you is truly lucky. I can only attest to how you are on your blog, but I imagine you are a great deal of fun and the best to be around! Good for you for getting back out there! I think it’s great :)

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Truth is there isn’t a person on the planet without “baggage” so there is no need at all to feel self conscious for a second! It’s the tough stuff we go through that makes us better, kinder partners and people in general! Your parents seem amazing. Your daughter is incredible and you seriously deserve the BEST in a man. Be picky! So glad you are enjoying getting back to dating!

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I’m happy to here you’re enjoying dating!! Me and my boyfriend met 5 years ago on the cross country team, and to think about dating, well I feel you on that, I’d be scared now to! I’d feel like I wouldn’t know how to, me and him never really went on dates, we just started hanging out, became really good friends, and the rest is history. Major props to you for getting back out there, any guy will be lucky to have you!
Hmmmm, I’d give my weekend a 6, it was quiet, and somewhat relaxing, but I should have gotten more homework done. Hahaha 3 more weeks left, I can’t quit now!

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Good for you – and your friend is right. I imagine there are plenty of amazing people out there who would love a chance to date you, baggage and all! And we all have baggage, whether it’s from a divorce or bad childhood or something – no one is bag-free.

I met my husband in Honduras when I was in the Peace Corps. He worked on the bus that I took from my town into the city (where the bank and internet was) and I took the bus often so we got to know each other. We started dating and then 6 months later my tour was over and I moved back to the US. We stayed in touch and he got a visa three years later and we got married.

My weekend was maybe a 7-8, which is sad because it was my bday weekend and it should have been a 10. My husband isn’t great a celebrating me on special days (sounds horrible, but he didn’t celebrate a single bday or holiday or anything his entire life because he was too poor so he doesn’t quite get what he should do), so it was just mediocre. I did some hiking though and met my sister in Philly. So it wasn’t too horrible!

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Good for you! Happy that you’re getting out there… you deserve so much happiness!!! :)

I met my boyfriend at CrossFit, and we’re still going “strong” ;)

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Somehow I’ve managed to burn myself on my wrist several times while curling my hair. Don’t ask me what weird acrobatics I must be doing to manage that.
I met my husband while we were on a study abroad in Germany. Our first date was at this ghetto restaurant. There were literally no other patrons eating, but people kept showing up with shaved heads and chains and leather and going in a back room. It was interesting.

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I have definitely one-upped you on the curling iron burns….. slapped myself across the face with mine and spent a week reassuring strangers that I wasn’t being abused while it scabbed up and was generally gross. I wasn’t even texting…. just tired and not coordinated.

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It makes all of us smile to hear that you are happy.

When I was in college, I used the “I have a missionary” excuse if someone asked me out that I wasn’t sure of.

My sister and I lived together at BYU one year. She had at least one date every day for the first full month of school. She’d say “hi,” to someone on the stairs and they’d ask her out.

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Your friend is right about you dating again! I’m really happy for you and that you felt ready to get out there again!

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I had a fantastic weekend. Glad to hear you’re having a good time dating. It can be a lot of fun. And don’t feel bad, I burn myself with every styling tool that I own even with the focus of a samurai, I’m a hopeless klutz, I’ve just learned to embrace it.

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I’m really good at burning my neck with a curling iron and making it look like I have awkward hickies. So I’d say a forehead burn isn’t too bad, comparatively lol.

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This is exactly why I do not use curling irons and/or straightening irons. I mean, do you really want something that hot that close to your face? I stick with regular rollers if I’m that motivated to do my hair and let’s be honest that’s like never. Hey, better they see what they’re getting early than setting up unrealistic expectations.

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your friend is pretty brilliant ;-) clearly, he’s right! You are definitely a catch. And I don’t think I’ve had any bad burns with a curling iron/hair straightener…but that’s probably because I can count on one hand the amount of times I’ve used either of those in the last year or so (super straight hair that doesn’t hold curls very well…so I don’t bother)

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Thanks for your post on dating; I recently started to date again also… and I am super nervous. I am not even sure how to meet guys because I refuse to do online-dating. Are you using an online-dating forum? Do you recommend it?

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Hey!!!! You can do it!!! I haven’t tried any online services yet. I have met people through set-ups, guys that I knew before I got married that are still single or meeting them at really random places ha! Good luck!

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I met my best friend, now husband (and soon to be father of our child this July!) online. When I signed up, I figured I had nothing to lose and everything to gain. I mean, Mr. Right wasn’t going to just show up knocking at my door, and as a physician resident, I didn’t exactly have a lot of free time to go around trying to meet random people. Plus, bar scene wasn’t/isn’t for me. What’s the worst that could happen? You go on a bad or awkward date? so what….would make a good story to laugh at later : ) and who knows, you just may meet an awesome man : ) Good luck!

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I met my husband actually on match.com after going on a million dates and creeping upon the age of 28. We are a great match and our dates went really well. ( I had been on some awkward ones before!) I recognize the forehead burn, you are using an INSTYLER! I love mine but I always burn my forehead with that stupid thing! I had a great weekend! It was a 10. I ran a 10K trail race and placed 3rd in my age group. I am beginning to really love trails but it is soo hard. Have a great day!!!

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Easter candy is my favorite. I stock up the week after when everything is on sale!

My fiance and I met during summer vacation while in college. We went to different colleges though and didn’t reconnect until a year after graduation which is when we started dating.

Straightening iron burns are the worst! My weekend was a 4. I spent the entire weekend inside studying for exams. Next weekend will be a 10 though!

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ps your friend sounds amazing. Having an open mind and positive attitude sounds like a good match to me glad you are getting out there! People are amazing and have so much to offer!

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I’m from maryland (right outside of DC) and my husband is from Texas but we met in Florida! I moved there after college without any real plans. He was helping his best friend move in across the street. He walked into our apartments lobby while I was job searching (read: procrastinating on the internet), drenched in sweat after a run and smelling delicious I’m sure. He asked his friend (who I knew) who I was after we hugged hello. And then he pestered him to invite me over that night to hangout. He opened the door to our mutual friends apartment, we smiled at each other and my eyes locked on his gorgeous blue eyes. And the rest, as they say, is history. We haven’t stopped smiling since. I broke my lease a few months later to move to Texas (since the 700 mile 12 hour drive each way was slowly killing me) and now 4 years later were happily married and I stare into those same baby blues on our 2 beautiful sons :)

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Hi Janae,
I’ve been a (pretty obsessive) reader for awhile now, but this is my first time posting..
I think you’re just a beautiful person all around and deserve to be so happy, so whatever gets you there!
I just got engaged a week ago(!!!) and I met my fiance through my brother.. he was my middle brother’s best friend, and now he gets to be part of the family.. Hope there are all good feelings about that one. :)
My weekend was a 9.. it was wonderful. Would be a 10.. but not sure it beat last weekend’s 10 with the whole getting engaged/amazing Easter food :)

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Ahhhhhhh I am so so so so happy for you! Huge congratulations!

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I love your perspective on dating! I met my bf completely randomly at a bar- never thought that would happen! Our first “date” was dinner at Chipotle- I knew I got a winner when he was just as excited about me suggesting chipotle as I was! haha

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I am also divorced (for four years now) and when I started dating again I was SO clueless and found it super awkward. My now fiancé and I started chatting online (we knew each other previously but not well) and I refused to go out with him but he finally wore me down. Dating him wasn’t awkward because he made me so comfortable. I couldn’t imagine my life without him now. I have a seven year old daughter and he is so good with her.

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Drew and I met through a mutual friend. I trusted my friends opinion and Drew did too, now we’ve been together for 4 1/2 years.

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I met my fiance when his best friend insisted on setting us up despite both of our whole hearted objections. He and his wife tricked us into meeting and we have been together over 3 years now :)

As someone who very easily falls into routines and is afraid to branch out, this is one of my favorite quotes…
“When you walk to the edge of all the light you have and take that first step into the darkness of the unknown, you must believe that one of two things will happen. There will be something solid for you to stand upon or you will be taught to fly.”

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I am so glad to see you are back out there. From what I can see you have a ton of love to give and whoever snags you is a lucky SOB. My SO and I met in 6th grade, we became really good friends, he asked me to be his GF, I said yes, then naturally freaked out and avoided any communication for the next week because I was so nervous… so he dumped me : ( Then I ran into him a week after college in a bar and planted a big on him. It has been 4 years now!

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I’m SO happy for you! So glad that you are getting out there and meeting others, all are reminding you how awesome YOU are. Can’t wait to keep hearing about your adventures!

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My first date with my boyfriend was a picnic in the park……we talked for hours and got so sunburned!! We met at work, not always easy or the best, but we work in different departments so we don’t really see each other at work…….and we always keep it professional…..lots of coworkers never even knew we were dating. I always commented on liking his shoes (colorful converse low tops) and he on my belts (I had a pretty sweet Kermit the frog belt!) and eventually a mutual work friend told us that we should get together. I invited him to opening night of a play I was in and the rest is history. 5 years dating in May!!

I have burned myself before…usually my ear or neck though.

My weekend was probably a 7……pretty busy one but still good!

Have a great week :)

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My hubby and I met on E-harmony!! Not only me but my 2 other best friends met their husbands on there also!!! It really does work!! Some guy is going to be extremely blessed and lucky to have you and Brookster in his life one day! Have fun during this time!
We have been married 2 years and 1 month now and our 1st date was back in January 2011 and we went ice skating and then to dinner! And 11 months later he proposed on top of the Empire State Building!

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I met my husband on eharmony. He was the 3rd guy I went out on a date with – it was such a fun experience meeting new people. People tend to look down on it, but I loved it! Gotta have an open mind!

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I burn myself on the neck all the time, but only with my curling wand, not the curling iron. Not sure why the prior is so much harder for me to handle! lol

I am getting married in October and met my fiancé actually the very first day of college orientation, August 2003! We had the same major so we were in the same college transition group and had a lot of classes together…I liked him on and off all through college and even after we graduated, when he moved 3 hours away. He never liked me that way though and so I dated other people, etc.–we did always keep in touch though on facebook and phone calls every so often and if he was in the area we’d hang out. Then almost two years ago when we were both single, a light bulb finally turned on in his brain and he realized how amazing I am and that we were meant to be! ;) hehe

He proposed on New Year’s Eve this past year and we are definitely looking forward to our future together! Sometimes I honestly feel like I am living in a chick flick, where the clueless best friend you’ve loved forever finally gets his act together ;) You really never know how life is going to turn out!

So glad you are getting back out there and having fun :) You deserve the best, Janae!!

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I think it’s great that you’re dating again! I’m glad you’re enjoying yourself and having fun. :) My husband and I met at our church. We knew each other for years before we finally started dating and then got married. Crazy how stuff happens!

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I constantly burn myself with the Instyler!! That thing is deadly (but I still like it)

My current boyfriend is someone I have known for 2 years–but he was married when I met him. I had been dating people (even got engaged and then broke it off), but I was single earlier this year, and he got a divorce last year, so we finally got together and everything is lovely. He tells me he was worried no one would want to be with him because of his baggage also! But if things didn’t happen the way they did, we never would be together, so I don’t care at all :)

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I think I’m in the wrong demographic for this question. I met my husband the day I graduated from high school, he proposed four days later and … well…he frowns on my dating.

My sister was distracted while curling HER hair and waved the wand behind her (huh…this totally makes her sound like a princess. Freudian? LOL) and she laid that sucker across my eye. So there you go. My curling iron injury.

Salad for breakfast doesn’t sound like my favorite but anything and everything Mexican food…I’d eat that for breakfast. No matter what it was. I’m hungry for it now. Though I did just eat Mike and Ike’s . And they were pretty good I have to say.

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Love what your friend said about your “baggage”. That’s a great way to think about it!

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Good for you for dating again! I think you are a great catch and whoever you find will be so lucky to have you and Brooke!!

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That is amazing advice and so true! I have to say, I actually like dating people who have been through serious relationship breakups or divorce. Kinda sounds awful, but I think it shows character to have once been so committed to someone yet had to let it go, and are now on the other side continuing on with faith that the right situation will come along. In some ways I think its better than not ever having any serious relationship. It shows commitment and heart and a willingness to go the distance no matter how hard it might be, and those are all qualities I really admire and hope my guy would have. That’s my perspective from the other side of the situation. So happy you’re getting out there!

I do occasionally burn myself with curling irons, and mostly on my neck so it looks like a hickey…. :( But the worst is when I dropped my eye pad on my face while reading in bed and got a huge black eye from the metal edge…..

Thanks for sharing your dating story! I know you are an inspiration to many!

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I am so happy for you and for how strong you are after this whole experience. What great words to hear from your guy friend as well! :) So happy for you!!!!

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I burned my neck one time and for a good week or looked like a terrible hickey. It was bad haha
Your friend is so wise and you have such a good attitude. You go girl ;) I’m the worst at dating. I just dislike it so much. What’s a girl to do?! Haha

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This makes me so happy! You deserve the greatest man ever and I hope you have SO much fun going on dates until you find somebody absolutely amazing. Maybe sometime you could do a post on awkward/funny/weird dating experiences… as long as the guys don’t know about/read your blog, of course. :)

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You are the best! Remember how we have been blog bffs for like 4 years now.
That is the problem.. I am friends with the guy on Facebook and I link my blog on Facebook so I am nervous they would see:) I will have to email you:) love you!

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My husband and I met online, had 1 date, and then he went away for 10 days to study lit in Russia. During that time, we e-mailed non stop and developed the best relationship.

He proposed 5 days after he returned and we married about 2 weeks after that. We just knew.

Oh, and he was divorced with a 12 year old.

The divorce and child were non issues for me. His heart and mine fit perfectly. We now have a toddler daughter who has a little sibling due on her due date… our 2 year gap twins!

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And PS, if you have not seen Austenland with Keri Russell and Jane Seymour you need to! I laughed so hard!! It’s on dvd now.

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All about what you listed for dating again…amazing. I think it’s great (although basements are great too haha).

I met my husband through my mom and his sister. My mom said this guy was very good looking. I said, gross, Mom. Turns out she was right ;). And, somehow he ended up liking me!! haha

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Good for you, Janae! You were dealt a horrific blow and I am glad you are dating again. No one can judge you, we don’t know what went on but I am happy you are getting out there.

Great idea for the Easter baskets…maybe we all should do that, the money we would save:)

You look really pretty in the pic with your nephew/nieces!

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I’m so glad you’re at a place where you feel like you’re ready to date. I hope you find someone who appreciates how amazing you are!

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Yeah you for dating :) You are so sweet and tender hearted, thank you for sharing as I am sure you will be giving others, whether in similar or other challenging situations, encouragement. Sharing when you do not need to at all is a super duper plus too.

Enjoy and remember ~ you deserved to be loved whole hearted and whole soul, but not everyone deserves to love you. Be selective, use your family (especially Dad & Mom) for feedback. Its hard when love hormones are involved so our loved ones thoughts really help.

Have a great week :)

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I’ve burned myself a few times with the curling iron. The worst was when my mom offered to do my hair for me when I was younger and she accidentally clipped my ear. It hurt pretty bad and it blistered a little.
I met my hubby through church. He was staying for the summer with one of his friends so he could get in-state tuition. His friend went to church with me and we were friends, so we hung out all summer long. Good times!
My weekend was a 7. We took it pretty easy which was much needed. I got to run on Saturday while my hubby watched the kids play at the park. After I finished, I played hide and seek with my son (he’s 6). That part of my weekend was a 10.

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I love that you are dating! You deserve to be happy, in addition you’re right it gets you out of the house and helps you meet some fun peeps.

Um… I feel that forehead and side head burn marks where a permanent fixture on my head for many years… They still randomly occur BUT much less frequently!!!!

While my weekend was low key it was exactly what I needed… I have been on the go every wknd since the beginning of the month… so it was nice to just chillax and spend time with my little loves…. def a 10 in my book

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This post made me so happy! I’m truly wishing you all the best, and I hope you find someone that appreciates how special you are!

My husband and I met in college, but it took us several years of being best friends before we realized we had something more. It was a real When Harry Met Sally situation!

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Dating again sounds like it was definitely the right move for you. Glad you’re having fun!

I can’t think of any particularly great dating stories right now, but I met my husband while visiting a friend in college in Maine. We both lived in the same town in CT, but happened to be visiting our friends in Maine the same weekend. Go figure.

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I’m so happy that you are having a great time dating! But, you don’t need to explain why or defend yourself, you’re more than entitled to do anything that makes YOU happy.

I met my husband at Starbucks, it was very random but we met on line once and then kept running into each other there at different times.

My weekend was great, I took my 6 month old swimming for the first time and he loved it. It’s so fun seeing everything new through their eyes.

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Oh and a terrible dating story… A friend from college set me up with her brother… We went out to dinner where he told me that I was fat and should be careful what I ordered for dinner, then wanted me to pay for him! I’m glad you are seeing better people :)

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The older you get the more the dating pool is filled with people in a similar situation…it’s not baggage, it’s life experience. I’m 30, divorced, and now engaged to an amazing man. We have a baby together and he has 2 boys from his previous marriage. I never would have dreamed I would be divorced and end up a step-parent, but I have never been happier. Love is what you make it. Our path wasn’t easy and we work on it every day, but as my fiancé says, our love was forged in fire, and we’re so much stronger and more committed because of it. You will happy and happy–you know so much more about yourself having gone through what you have, you’ll use that to never settle for anything less than amazing.

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Yay! I’m so glad you’re dating!

My husband and I met on a month-long vacation in Italy (he’s half-Italian and has family connections over there). He kissed me for the first time in a piazza in Florence, Italy. It was all quite romantic.

Yes, I’ve burned myself a few times with the curling iron. It usually happens when I think I can handle reading a book while doing my hair is a good idea. It’s not.

Weekends are always so nice, I think most of them are at least 8s. :)

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So happy for you, Janae! It’s your newly single friend from Ohio again. I LOVE the words your friend told you. Tell him he is helping me, too! Haven’t started to date and really don’t think I will but you never know!

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So glad to hear you are happy :) You so deserve it. Thanks for sharing with us :)
How did me and Don meet? You have to promise you wont think less of me ;) Short version: I met Don when I was dating his best friend that he lived across the street from his entire life. Little did I know, his bff was actually cheating on me with SEVERAL other girls. Don felt so bad about it that he broke the “bro code” and confessed to me what his bff had been up to. I promptly left his friendfor him and we have been together for 4 years now, married for 2. I felt a tiny bit bad at first because it almost ruined their lifelong friendship but a girl’s gotta do what she’s gotta do right?!? They were onlt mad at each other for a few months anyway and he ended up beinf one of only two witnesses at our “wedding”.
It just goes to show you everything happens for a reason!!! Even the bad things. Everyone serves a purpose in our life, even if we dont know what, God does. He has a plan, we just have to trust Him!!!

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So happy for you! It’s hard to move on but feels really good!

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Good luck with the dating! I think dating should be fun more then anything else, people always talk about it being awful, but if you’re not hoping to be awestruck on a date and just hoping to have fun then I think it goes a lot better :)

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My husband and I met two weeks after I had ended a long term relationship. It was completely unexpected and I was not at all in the market, but sometimes you just can’t control when the right one will come along. I’m a believer that all people should keep an open mind and open heart when it comes to finding love. Good for you for getting out there and trusting in yourself to make the right decisions. You absolutely deserve to be happy.

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Glad dating is going so well! My husband and I met through mutual friends when we were 18, and then we were friends for awhile before starting to date. We were basically the most awkward friends-who-have-a-mutual-crush ever.

I burnt my fingers badly last year by grabbing a curling iron by the wrong end… genius, right? They were gross and blistered for weeks.

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My hubs & I were both LSU Baseball season ticket holders & we met on a baseball road trip in Austin, TX. We were each with friends & started talking in the Lobby when he asked me where the Catholic Church was! That was 16 years ago.

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Janae,
1. why oh why do burns with a curling iron hurt soooo much worse than any other type of burn OUCH!

2. we all “recover” at our own pace. Good for you for not letting others decide that for you.

3. Have you ever considered sharing your story about your divorce as an effort to help others? I have no idea what happened and I totally respect your privacy so if you decide to keep it private then who could blame you. However, you encourage so many women with your posts and this may be another outlet. Just a thought! Keep the posts coming!!! Love seeing the yummies! ;)

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When my 5.5 year relationship blew up in my face a few years ago, I felt nauseous at the thought of dating again. Afterwards, his actions towards me pretty much destroyed my faith in men for years. It took me a really long time to date again. After many bad dates and failed relationships, I swore off men and dating… and of course, that’s exactly when I met my current husband at my running club.

Proud of you for moving forward. It isn’t easy, it never is, but you have done so with so much grace. Brooke is one lucky gal that she has someone so strong to look up to. :)

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That is awesome. Been with my husband since I was 18 I’m 38 now we met when he called me. Nothing exciting. But had a 10 weekend! I pr’d in my half and almost did the ugly cry when I saw my family wave to me on the course I was so emotional knowing I would make my time. Fueled with Swedish fish and had negative splits!
Good for u for dating! I’d do the same thing!!

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I’m happy to see that you’re getting back in the game! :)

I’ve known my husband since we were in elementary school, but we didn’t start dating until I was 23. I think what makes our relationship so amazing is that we started out as friends first and then it went from there!

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Yay for dating again! Any guy will be lucky to get to spend time with you!

I met my fiance at a corporate challenge track meet. He came to cheer on his friend who happened to be on my relay.

My weekend was an 8…would have been a 10, but I didn’t feel good yesterday. Cookout and Cards Against Humanity with friends on Friday, Farmer’s Market and Zip Lining and a delicious dinner out on Saturday.

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No crazy dating stories here, BUT over this past Christmas break I met my now boyfriend and he took me on some really, really fun dates! Before him, I had been in a pretty unhealthy relationship for about 5 years and I think we probably went on about 4 or 5 dates total over those years. So, it was nice (like you said) to get all dolled up and giddy! Our first date was at a place called Victor Tangos in Dallas and it’s basically like you order appetizers and share with one another. I was a little iffy about this bc I don’t do well with sharing, but I figured I could make an exception for him ;) It ended up being awesome and we had about 5 or 6 appetizers! After dinner we met up with another couple to go bowling and have drinks! It was an awesome first date! Another one of my favorite dates was going to a nice dinner then we went to go have drinks and listen to live jazz! I had never done anything like that before and ended up having a blast!

Curling iron: yes, I have burnt myself. Right on the neck. First day of 7th grade. Got accused of it being a hickey!! Talk about embarrassing!!

My weekend was a 10! Went to the park and had a cookout and ate some delicious watermelon and celebrated a friends birthday! :)

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I met my hubby at the mall when I was 14, we found out we attended the same high school and talked randomly but met up again when I was 16 and he was 18 and the rest is history :)
Just wait until you accidentally burn Brooke. I felt like the worst mom on the planet :( And my daughter still reminds me of it to this day.
My weekend was definitely a 10! I ran a 1/2 in SLO and it was gorgeous and I hit my goal time even with the crazy hills!

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Yes – I have burned myself with the curling iron. More than once I’m sorry to say!
Weekend was a 2 but we won’t go there.

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Glad to hear you are happy! What an incredibly sweet note from your friend – made me cry! Keep on doing what you’re doing and enjoying life, girl. You deserve it!

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It makes me so happy to hear that you are having fun dating again :) I think what you have been through has surely made you more aware of what you want in a partner, as well as making you even more of a strong and compassionate person than you were before…and any guy would be very lucky to have you!

My weekend was an 8. I had a ton of social stuff going on, including time with my family, and getting to see some old high school friends who I had lost touch with. Lots of laughs! Unfortunately the weekend didn’t end on a positive note, otherwise I’d say it was a 10!

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My weekend was awesome, probably an 8. I’ve only ever been on one truly terrible date where the guy tried to feed me pizza… it was interesting to say the least and and also, ew.

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I am so happy that you are happy! Moving past these unexpected hurdles in life can be so tough. I’ve had a lot of wonderful friends go through similar situations and watched them find equally wonderful people to spend their lives with as a result. I seriously don’t think I could deal with life without running..it always seems like it’s one step (or skip) at a time!

My weekend was a 10 for sure! Saw family I haven’t seen in a while and took my dogs on tons of walks. That’s my absolute favorite to be around people (and pets) I love.

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I actually met my hubby at a family party. So random (and no we are not cousins. Although the story is quite amusing.) our stars were aligned that day bc our paths had crossed several times but we never noticed each other. If you don’t put yourself out there you will never know. So many people meet significant others on days they’d rather stay in bed!

And that salad looks delicious. Cheese is good any time of the day…especially for breakfast!!!

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I think it’s awesome that you’re dating again beautiful! you are young, gorgeous, Godly, and driven. Any guy would be absolutely lucky to have you.

When Tyler and I broke up I started dating pretty quickly myself. Things were going real well with one guy. Said guy was a photographer and about a month later he started asking me to be a nude model for him. um no!

However, things have taken a big turn of events. A good friend of mine is deploying and laid his feelings out there for me. Next weekend he’s flying me down to TX to see him off and I’m so excited to see where things go. It will be hard having the first year of a relationship through a deployment but… it’s the Army.

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I started dating 2 months after ending it with my live- in boyfriend of 7 years. It was actually with someone who was in my group of friends, and I was nervous about people finding out bc they might look at me (or him) badly. However, I knew the people close to me would understand, and just felt that I shouldn’t hold myself back due to social convention, bc I knew I was ready. When our friends found out (we weren’t very smooth, ha ha!) I was shocked by how supportive everyone was, how happy for us, and how “much it made sense to everyone”. Long story short, I suppose we should give people the benefit of the doubt when it comes to being understanding, people can be way more awesome than we expect them to be! And we should follow our gut and go by how we feel, as opposed to doing what we think we should do. I could have missed out on something really special if I’d looked to some pre-conceived notion of “the right time” instead of listening to myself!

Your blog has become as integral to my day as coffee (usually those go together!) and I know your other readers feel the same when I say how wonderful and amazing you are, and how excited I am for you to find seine equally so!! Go gurl!

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Good for you!! My husband I met through mutual friends and he was married at the time. Unfortunately, his ex-wife was unfaithful and they got a divorce. We’ve been married about seven months now and he tells me every week or so how incredibly happy he is. I wish he hadn’t had to go through such a tough time but I can honestly say he’s happier for it. I don’t know your personal situation, but we’ve found that sad events can lead to wonderful, wonderful things. I hope you find nothing but happiness–and it sounds like you’re on the right track. :)

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I have many truly cringey dating stories. One classic is when I was dating this guy but we hadn’t a lot in common and my mom asked me via text how it was going. I wrote back to her and told her that I was seeing him that Friday to tell him I think we shouldn’t date any more, of course I sent the guy the message instead of my mom. I am still horrified by this 10 years on. The guy was quite understanding really.

I met my other half through friends, at a music festival, also 10 years ago, but we have been dating for 5 years now. I never thought I could be as happy as he makes me. He’s pretty cool.

Yes I have burnt myself with a straightner! Bad times!

My weekend was a 5, sick for most of it!

So delighted for you that you are dating again and loving it. Your friend’s advice is wonderful, and true.

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Best of luck to you in your dating adventures! And be safe with the curling iron haha

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Aw yeah Janae, this was the post I was waitin’ for :) :) :) :) :) :) (See? I’m trying to tell you how huge I’m smiling at you.) I’m glad you’re dating again.

I’m the opposite of you – in big groups (of people I actually know really well) I do well. But one-on-one I get a little more shy, and definitely stomach aches from being so nervous.

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I’m really glad to hear that you’re dating again! For all the reasons you listed, I think it’s a great way to build confidence and slowly start to move on.

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You seriously deserve all the best in the world! Thanks for sharing so much of your life and family with all of us! Your friend is a genius; I LOVE what he said!

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I had a busy but awesome weekend, recap and pics at the blog http://runwright.net/2014/04/28/modrun-week-5-day-1/. I work with kids at church too and knowing that others are depending on me is stressful but also makes Me feel like my effort is worth something,
All the best with dating,you deserve the best.

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So happy for you to be dating you deserve the most happiness!

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I never knew how much this blog would help me out. I started reading in 2012 and went through a breakup just four months ago. I’m still in the throes of it and am struggling daily with comprehending the end of a 7.5y relationship. I’m rejecting it, grieving it, accepting it, and finding happiness elsewhere, but all in a sort of cyclical pattern that feels like I’m making little progress. Your posts have helped me to see that it is possible to process it all and that there is a life of opportunity and possibility on the other side. You are a blessing to me and seemingly to so many others too! Thanks for your candid posts and for opening yourself up to us.

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Ugh…I hate dating so much. Enough to use the word hate. I’ve been on some really horrible dates (and some great/okay ones too). The worst date I’ve had was with a guy I met online. He acted very creepy and only talked about his parents and his many, many, many dogs (I love my parents and I love my pet but this verged on crazy). We only went to supper and I bolted out of there afterwards. He followed behind me to the car and tried to get in the passenger side so I could drive him home because it was raining and he walked to the restaurant. Luckily, I only unlocked my door with the fob and we were in a very public place. That was the first and only time I have ever squealed my tires from taking off too fast! By the time I got home, he had e-mailed me telling me how he thought we were meant for each other. I still shudder when I think of this guy!

I’m still single and I often feel resigned to the fact that I’ll likely be single for life. If someone comes along, they come along. If not, that’s okay too.

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I loooooovveee what your guy friend said!! And he is SO right. <3

Oh boy did I have some crazy and awkward dates back when I was dating…..cheers to you for doing what is right for you!! Can't wait to hear more about it!

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I meet my husband in HS. Over 20 years ago!

I teacher Kindergarten and my students have been known to be very well behaved all for ONE Skittle. Of course, as they eat one Skittle I eat a whole handful!

My weekend was a 8. It was a great weekend with family but my Achilles is hurt so I didn’t run otherwise it would have been a 10.

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Growing up we always celebrated Easter the Monday after Easter. My mom always said it was because Easter Sunday was for thinking about our Savior (which was partly true) but the main reason was because we didn’t have much money, so my mom would hit the Easter sales the next day and get the candy on sale! That’s definitely something I’m going to do with my kids too! It’s smart!

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It tore me up when you first revealed your upcoming divorce. I’d been following and enjoying your blogs. You are so open, enthusiastic, beautiful, and a runner besides! I especially liked reading your blogs because in them you seemed happy, and you seemed to me to be a person who deserves happiness! With your divorce, the tone of your blogs changed. Or maybe it was the way I read them knowing you were miserable.

Now I see you are starting to heal, and it gladdens me. Life is never how we want it to be, but we can still be happy! I am thankful for you, for the blogs you write, and I care about you although we will probably never meet.

May you find joy in your life!

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I get the whole dating thing. When I get divorced it took me a whole to start dating and I met my awesome hubby (talk about baggage I had four kids)! Crazy thing is the guys usually start dating right away.

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I loooooooooooove this post! It’s such a fun one :) Good luck to you.

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That quote by your friend is very touching and so true! I met my husband about 5 years ago and at that time, I wasn’t ready to date or be in a relationship. However, things naturally fell into place and we just recently tied the knot. :) I never thought I was very knowledgeable about dating, nor do I think I’m good at giving dating advice. Every person comes with “baggage” but that just helps us shape who we are because we learn from or past experiences. Thanks for sharing this post with us! :)

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I am on the other side of this experience – meaning my husband came with the “baggage” you were worried others would think you had. I want to tell you two things:

1) Your guy friend’s advice is spot on
2) Whenever I think about a scenario where my husband never got married before me and had a son, all I can think is that he would not be the same man I fell in love with. And how seeing him with my stepson is probably one of the number one things that made me love him in the first place. I know that your future Mister Right will feel the exact same way <3

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This is my first time commenting, but I wanted to let you know that what your guy friend said couldn’t be more perfect. Though, I’ve never been through a divorce, I’ve had a messy break up in the past. It took me awhile to find myself again, but once I did and felt comfortable enough to date, I did. And then one night, when I least expected, I was out with friends and I was introduced to my now husband. Good luck and from what I have learned about you through reading your blog, you are a wonderful person with a huge heart and you will definitely find someone that will make you and Brooke very happy!

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I am so happy for you – that you are meeting great new people and that your mom can watch Brooke so you can go out! I will try to keep this short, but here’s how my husband and I met.

After hitting a point in my life where I wanted to give up on dating (I had a knack for going out with the wrong guys…), I saw this handsome new guy a few seats away from me at church. We ended up talking while in line for coffee after the service and it was great. He was such a nice guy who loved the Lord, BUT his army unit was deploying the next week. Sooo…. I was bummed. Finally met a great godly guy and he’s going overseas.

A few weeks went by and though I had assumed I wouldn’t see him again, he showed up for church that Sunday! Some of the guys from his unit deployed, but not all of them. .. . how that worked out so perfectly, only God knows! So we hung out in a group of friends, then started dating, engaged, and married the next Spring.

We’re celebrating our 2 year anniversary this May and we have a wild toddler running around the house. I thank God that He blessed me with my husband and that He didn’t let me give up on dating and marriage!

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love the dating ramble :) glad you are getting out there and having fun. xoxo

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SO happy for you!! You deserve to smile and have fun and have crazy dating adventures! Enjoy it!!

I never curl my hair because I burn myself every single time I try ;)

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I met my SO through friends. We managed to have friends in common for 10+ years without meeting!
The first few dates with someone new are always so much fun because they’re so silly/awkward/funny/romantic/new/random/sweet all at once!

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I’ve been on plenty of weird dates. I did the online thing awhile back, but too many guys pretend to be what they think you want them to be. It felt so fake to me so I gave up. I would rather meet someone organically. By the way, had a lot of trouble posting my comment to your site today.

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Me too! Did you get a weird “bang bang” text box when you tried to submit your comment? I’ve tried 4x and just keep getting the same text box :(

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Yes! I received the bang bang error message too.

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I keep getting it. Tried from different browsers and everything :(

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I have been waiting for this post since you did the post about the perks of being single! I’m currently single and can relate to many things you said :)

But wow, that quote from your friend was really touching.

And, as for burning myself on my straightner, it has happened too often to count! haha

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Good for you Janae!
yes I have burned myself with curling irons…forehead, fingers. Ouch
I agree about the primary kids and the chocolate eggs. I am not above bribing my kids during sharing time. :)

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I have SO many INTERESTING dating stories :)

I was on a first date with a guy and we were at a seafood restaurant. He said “yeah, I “see” food and then I eat it”! If there were any other redeeming qualities, this may have been cute but there weren’t and it was NOT cute. Ha. Look forward to sharing more.

How are you meeting people to date? Through church, friends? I am part of a running group but everyone is married already! :)

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Good for you on getting out there. You deserve all the happiness in your life. :) I know that it took a long time after my divorce to start dating again.

I meet my husband at Starbucks. He was my customer who would hang out in the lobby to study and we became friends…..

I went on a lot of weird dates. I had one guy get mad at me for beating him at ski ball. Lets just say, I only went on one date with him.

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You deserve every ounce of happiness that swings your way! I loved this post, and can’t wait to hear when you find the man who will be perfect for you and Brooke! :)

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You know, I was running out the door to work this morning so I cut my message too short. I wanted to say good for you for taking that scary step of dating. You’re a beautiful person and you deserve much good things. MUCH.

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I was a single mummy when i met my beautiful husband. I met him on a trip interstate in his beautiful hometown. I must admit i fell hard pretty much straight away, we did the long distance thing and he moved down to be with me and my child, married and been together for ten years, we have added another child to the family and i couldnt be happier, he is amazing with my daughter and one of the amazing men i have ever met, God sent me my angel.

Janae, i pray God sends you an angel too, i am sure he will :)

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Enjoy the journey, Janae! Enjoy the evenings out, the butterflies when you find someone who makes you feel that way… all of it. You deserve the very best so enjoy and have fun with it all!

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SO.HAPPY.FOR.YOU!
Tell me the truth, was there at least one date gone on simply because he was smoking hot???

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Girl, go get your date on!!! I met my hubs when he came down from byu for the summer and put AC in my sister’s house. Best blind date ever. You and your daughter deserve to be happy and have a full life. I so wish you could spill about the awkward date ;)

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I wanna hear more about your dating life! I am so nosy and it’s so interesting!

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I love this post and I love all the other readers cheering for you Janae! I think any guy who would judge you for your past isn’t worth even a single date’s worth of your time. I was lucky enough to meet my husband very young and I have sometimes struggled with the fact that in some ways he didn’t get to know what he was getting into with me (my health has gone downhill steadily since we got married. Though I am still mostly ok, I’m not the person I was when we got married. Maybe someday I will be again, we will see). But good relationships can absorb lots of different circumstances – both those that happened before the relationship started and those that happen afterward. I also think having a sweet daughter to think about will really help you focus on what you want in a relationship too (when you are ready for something more serious). Sometimes it is easier to see what we want for other people than for ourselves! And many of the qualities that make for a great step-dad translate are the same as those that make for a great husband (yes, I know I’m getting way ahead of myself here!) Anyway, I hope you have lots of fun and enjoy meeting lots of people who are certain to adore you:)

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Such an honest post, just another reason why I follow your blog and admire you so much! You really are an amazing and inspirational person.

When something happens in your life you often question why…… Then later down the track you realize why it as it lead you somewhere you never thought you would end up.

I got married in 2004 then divorced in 2008 and was devastated I was in that situation in my 30’s. I met this incredible man at Christmas 2008 and he literally swept me off my feet. He was also divorced with 2 gorgeous kids. We are now married and SO in love and happy.

I’m so glad to hear that you’re out enjoying all aspects of your life. And you’re way to beautiful inside and out not to let other people to spend time with you!!

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PS I have burnt my ear with a straightening iron too many times, you’d think I would’ve learnt and stay concentrated but I haven’t :(

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So happy that you’re out and about :) my parents split when I was Brooke’s age and my mom still doesn’t have a boyfriend or husband. Just remember that you don’t need ad man to complete your life! My mom and I are perfectly happy with just the two of us :)

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I’ve never burned myself with curling or straightening my hair. I think I’ve had too many friends do it (really bad) that it scares me and I don’t get close enough to my skin to burn it. haha!
I met my fiance when I started working at an Italian restaurant. He knew the owner and came in to help with a catering party.

Glad you’re having fun dating! :)

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haha i used to burn my neck all the time curling my hair. they looked like giant hickies once they scabbed over..imagine being in middle school with burns that looked like hickies…embarrassing!

have fun dating! you may be in a situation you never expected it to be, but enjoy it! life will surprise you, but it seems like you are doing a great job making the best of the situation. I just respect you so much for your honesty about everything. Keep on relying on your great support system

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Do what you do girl!!! You deserve all the happiness in the world and to anyone putting you down because you’re already dating- screw them! Do they expect you to remain miserable for 5 years?? You are gorgeous and you will find someone great. Someone who deserves you. Don’t settle! Ever! Love your blog and I’m commenting for the first time :) but I’m a longtime reader

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I fell in love with my husband and he is a dad…seeing what a great father he was is one of his sexiest qualities:)

You are incredible:)

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