I have received a few emails recently asking about how I am coping with my divorce (or how to get through tough times). Talking about this in a public way is always really hard for me but I figure there are many in my same circumstance and I hope to be able to help at least one other woman find peace and a way to cope with things even though it is hard for me to talk about this kind of stuff.
1. Church. I do not talk about my faith very often on this blog because this is a running/food/pictures of Brooke blog but my religion and prayer have done more for me than I ever thought possible. It is my center. My core. No matter what your religion is or what your beliefs are I think that it is so important to find peace through some sort of spirituality.
For so many months the only possible way for me to get out of bed in the morning was if I went straight to my knees to pray and then that is what gave me the strength to stand.
2. Brooke. I really think she is my miracle. I absolutely love being a mom and she is such a happy little thing… it is hard to be sad around her. Focusing on her well-being is quite healing for me. It is amazing how much serving someone else helps ourselves.
3. Each member of my family. I wish more than anything that every woman in my situation could have a family to help them the way that mine do.
4. Running. There is nothing like pounding out your emotions on the roads. Just one run can change your whole perspective and there is nothing like sweating and crying at the same time to really help you release emotions and process your thoughts.
5. Friends. I would never want to turn any discussions with friends into a ‘bashing’ but talking about my situation and feelings with close friends has been very therapeutic. I have a friend that has been in very similar situation and is on the other side and she gives me so much hope. I know that in years from now that I will be that friend to someone else and help them to know it will all be okay.
6. Hope. Positive thinking. Looking forward and not behind. Gratitude. Focusing on the good stuff in life.
7. Each month I plan something that I can really look forward to during those times that are hard and I am feeling down. Whether it is a trip with friends, a race, a shopping trip with my mom or forcing my Sis or Paige and Jess to spend 24 hours straight with me… Something to have my eye on to think about when I get down.
8. Food. Yep. I said it. I know everyone says that we shouldn’t use food for ’emotional’ reasons but I sure do and I like it that way. Whether it is a good meal out with friends or chocolate in bed when I am reading, it makes me happy.
9. Counseling. This is more of a future one. I have not yet found one that I really connect with but I know eventually I will:) I have received some counseling from church leaders and my mom is the world’s best counselor/listener ever.
10. Yes, it is important to process through situations BUT some things just hurt too much or sometimes you just don’t want to think about anything at all… Find something that lets you completely escape so that you don’t have to think about anything.
For me my escapes are: the movies, reading intense books and getting on Pinterest for hours late at night until I can fall asleep.
11. Music. There are so many songs that I listen to on repeat because the words in them give me power and strength.
Shake it Out by Florence + The Machine has been my favorite lately:
“It’s ALWAYS darkest before the DAWN.”
12. Take the high road. No matter what. You will heal eventually but I promise that ‘revenge/bad-talking/telling everyone your story/etc. etc’ will not make you feel any better.
What gets you through your hardest times?!?!